Listen to Rick read this post:
You could say my question is a trick question, though it is not meant to be one. The question is meant to provoke you to think and discuss. The answer to the question is both. The Bible does not make a case for one being exclusively superior, in that the other one is not important. The Bible makes a case for both of them as having specific roles to play in a person’s sanctification.
The Bible does not say the Bible alone is all you need to change. The Bible does not say all you need is a discipler. At different times and in different ways the Bible makes a case for both of these two good things to be part of a person’s overall soul care package. In fact, the Bible makes a case for five specific things that serve unique and practical roles in order for a person to effectually change.
- The LORD will change you (Ephesians 2:8).
- The Bible will change you (2 Timothy 3:16).
- You must do something in order to change (Philippians 2:12).
- Other people will help you to change (2 Samuel 12:1).
- Situations will change you (Genesis 50:20).
All five of these elements should be part of any person’s change schematic. The person who is growing, maturing, and changing will be accessing all of these means of grace. The neglect of any one of them will hurt a person’s maturation-into-Christlikeness process.
Our argument should not be about how one is better than the other, but about how all of them are needful and each one serves a unique role in the overall transformation of any person. It is similar to Paul’s discussion about the different gifts within the body of Christ (1 Corinthians 12:12-26). All the parts of the body are needed and it would not be helpful to speak more of one to the neglect of the other.
It depends on the need of the moment and the specific situation a person is going through that determines how each component of the change process is used. There is a time when the Bible should be front and center in a person’s life and there is a time when a person needs to put the Bible down and do the hard work of repenting (changing).
I do not need the Bible to repent if the Bible has already taught me how to repent. For example, last week I got angry at Lucia. I did not need the Bible to walk me through what anger is or what was going on in my heart or what I needed to do about my sin. The Bible has already informed me about these things.
What I needed to do was confess my sins to my wife and to seek her forgiveness (1 John 1:9). In that moment the most important thing I needed to do was number three–personal responsibility in the change process. The Bible has already done its job. The LORD was doing His job. The situation was fully in play–I was angry at her. And she was providing an opportunity for me to grow.
My call to action during my bout of anger was to repent. Was I going to step up to the plate and do what I needed to do in order to mature in Christ as well as mature in my relationship with my wife?
Not either/or, but both/and
Back to my question: what is better to have, the Bible or a mentor? You see this healthy synchronization between the essentialness of the Bible and a mentor in the New Testament. Here are a few examples:
Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.” – Matthew 28:19-20 (ESV)
But how are they to call on him in whom they have not believed? And how are they to believe in him of whom they have never heard? And how are they to hear without someone preaching? And how are they to preach unless they are sent? As it is written, “How beautiful are the feet of those who preach the good news!” – Romans 10:14-15 (ESV)
So Philip ran to him and heard him reading Isaiah the prophet and asked, “Do you understand what you are reading?” And he said, “How can I, unless someone guides me?” And he invited Philip to come up and sit with him. – Acts 8:30-31 (ESV)
For more examples about the primacy of the human community mentoring each other, download this list of the One Another passages from the New Testament. The Bible does not make a case for Bible exclusivity in the sanctification process, but calls for a more comprehensive way to think about sanctification, which requires a healthy (biblical) view of the Bible as well as how we all engage each other (koinonia).
It would not be wise to separate sola Scripture from solo mentoring, or the other three essential sola elements in the change process: (1) the LORD, (2) personal responsibility, and (3) the role of situations. Every Timothy needs a Paul, plus a thorough understanding of the LORD’s Word.
Community contexts for change
Personal mentoring, working in cooperation with growing Bible knowledge, while in the context of community, is an excellent prescription for a person to mature. This is the way I have led small groups in the local church. I have a high view of the Word of God and a high view of community, both of which work together for our overall transformation.
The way I prefer to do it is to blend the Word of God and the human community together, with the goal of personal and communal transformation. This happens in four specific ways.
- Corporate meetings
- Small group meetings
- Couple meetings
- Personal meetings
Our local church has one big church meeting each week. It happens on Sunday morning. This is a time where we all come together as a larger body to worship the LORD through singing, hearing the Word, ministering to each other, and enjoying each other. These are specific things that work together to edify our body as a whole.
Typically this larger church meeting provides me the opportunity to see most of the members of my small group, especially the men. During this time we may joke around, catch up on our week, and possibly talk about something serious. These are pneumatic opportunities that are not conducive for deep and transformative conversations due to the frenetic-ness of the morning.
Our brief encounters are redemptive in that we are seeing each other and it is another opportunity for us to build, with the long-term goal and expectation of having deeper and more transformative times later. The deeper discussions of life cannot happen consistently or comprehensively in a large crowd of people with whom you do not do life together on a regular basis.
To expect the large corporate church meeting to be a context for deeper and transformative conversations could be a setup for disappointment. You need another place that is more private and slower in pace to talk about the deeper things in our lives. This is why we have small group settings.
Small group meetings
On most Sunday nights throughout the year a small group of us have traditionally met from our local church. We gather to take our relationships deeper than what we can do on Sunday mornings. These meetings are more isolated and private from the larger corporate body. The nature of these meetings give us more opportunities to be more transparent.
Our “rule” in small group is what is said in this room stays in this room. We talk to each other at different times about what is said in small group, but we do not talk to those outside of our group about what is said in small group. Our small group is a tight-knit group of friends, who come together to spur each other on to love and good works (Hebrews 10:24-25).
Small group meetings are a time for the pace and noise of our lives to slow down. It is the pulling away idea that the LORD taught His disciples (Mark 6:30-32). There are times when it is essential to get away from serving others, so you can serve yourself. Without a replenishing context in your life, your soul can quickly be depleted.
This kind of context, I believe, is essential for individuals, couples, and families. It is like a corporate quiet time where you humbly ask others to love you enough to speak into your life. It is self-acknowledgement of self-suspicion. We all have our blind spots, which elevates the value of a band of brothers and sisters reciprocally caring for each other.
Because of our sense of shame, the temptation to be easily embarrassed, as well as a lack of community trust, we have found that adding monthly couple’s meetings to our small group dynamic is a must. The curse of Adam not only reaches far and wide, but it goes deep too.
Love, trust, and safety do not happen just because you are Christians and you are meeting in a small group. I have found some people to be more jaded about opening up because of past experiences where they have been hurt. In addition, there are some conversations that are not good for small group life.
We do not talk about a couple’s sex life in our small group meeting. This is where the couple’s meetings can serve as a significant means of grace for a struggling marriage. It gives them an even safer place to talk about the things that are important to them.
Couple’s meetings also can be dynamic when all the members of the small group value and participate in them. Couple’s meetings are not just for the leader to care for the group, but an opportunity for the entire group to meet in small contexts so they can learn to love and serve each other.
As you can see our meetings go from broad to narrow. Our most non-transparent meetings are the corporate meetings because those meetings are not designed for that kind of sanctification care. Larger, corporate meetings are essential and fantastic for other things. Even our small group meetings are not enough for sanctification to be done well.
Some of the most effective envisioning in our small group happens when the individuals in the group are meeting privately. All the members must be pursuing each other in order for the group to be a success. Each person in the group will have to decide if they are going to own the group. The degree in which each person takes ownership of the group will determine the quality of sanctification that happens in the group.
If the couples are meeting and if the individuals are meeting, then the Sunday night small group meeting can be transformational. However, if the group is not getting to know each other on the more private levels, then the small group meeting may be smaller than the corporate meeting, but it will still be a group of strangers.
Call to action
What is better to have, a Bible or a mentor? It is better to have both, plus the other three elements of change in which the Bible speaks. It is like a church with a pro-life emphasis, adoption ministry, global outreach, and Bible studies. It is not that one is better, to the exclusion of the others. They all are essential. When it comes to sanctification, it is better to think and implement broadly rather than narrowly. As you think about your sanctification, is there a missing element?
- Are you mature in the Bible, but weak in transparent relationships?
- Do you know what to do, but are unwilling to be personally responsible to change?
- Are you lovingly intrusive in the lives of those in your sphere of influence?
- What do you need to do in order to access all the means of grace the LORD provides for you and your friends to change?
This video helps to visually communicate the ideas put forth in this article: