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For example, the requests of my friends are not more important than my role as a child of God, husband to Lucia, or father to our children. Prioritizing my functions helps especially when there is a potential conflict between any two of them.
Lucia has many roles, too. For example, she is a wife and a mother, in that order. Lucia was a wife before she was a mother and, Lord willing, she will continue to be a wife long after our children establish their unique, autonomous, domestic empires. Though she will always be a mother, her role as a mother will diminish and change as our children grow up and build their lives in God’s world.
It is vital for our children to know the difference between a wife and a mother. An illustration of this is when our children sin against Lucia. We have taught them that when they sin against their mother, they are sinning against my wife. And to sin against my wife is to sin against me because Lucia and I are one flesh.
We want them to understand the sequence and severity of their sin against their mother. She is more than a mother; she is my wife, and we are one flesh. And because she is “more than a mother,” there is a call on me to take care of her. Here are a few questions that help me self-assess my responsibility toward Lucia.
Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. – 1 Peter 3:7
Peter changes the playing field when he says that how you live with your wife determines how you will relate to God. If you want an unimpeded relationship with God, it’s imperative to live well with your wife. If you devalue your wife, you will experience the Lord’s repercussions.
Wikipedia described a Stradivarius violin this way,
A Stradivarius is a violin or other stringed instrument built by a member of the Stradivari family, particularly Antonio Stradivari. According to their reputation, the quality of their sound has defied attempts to explain or reproduce. The name “Stradivarius” has also become a superlative applied to designate excellence. To be called “the Stradivari” of any field is to be deemed the finest there is.
Take the Stradivarius definition and paraphrase it for a wife.
A wife is built and called by God. According to the Lord’s reputation, the quality of her role and who He joins her to has defied attempts to explain or reproduce. The name “Wife” has become a superlative applied to designate excellence. To be called “a wife” is to be deemed the finest there is.