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How To Navigate the Quiet Contours of the Non-Talking Husband

How to Navigate the Quiet Contours of the Non-Talking Husband

Most relationships begin with a lot of talking and not so many frustrations. As the communicators continue in their relationship, complexity increases. Sometimes one of the partners becomes silent. He becomes quiet while the other partner is left to speculate on what happened. In this… Continue Reading …

What Are You To Do When God Does Not Respond Like You Hoped?

What Are You to Do When God Does Not Respond Like You Hoped

Humans were created for worship; it’s part of our ontology—the nature of our being—as determined by our Creator. You will worship something. If you worship the living God in spirit and truth, you will be transformed into His likeness; if you worship any version of… Continue Reading …

How You React to Fallen People Reveals What You Think about God

How You React to Fallen People Reveals What You Think About God

Every individual is part of the same human family, made by one Being, and connected to one another because of His creative work. The linkage that binds us together came from God’s mind and flowed through His creative hands—anthropomorphically speaking—in Genesis 1:27. Each person—regardless of… Continue Reading …

Thinking of Yourself as Victim Is One of the Worst Things You Can Do

Thinking of Yourself As Victim Is One of the Worst Things You Can Do001

Daniel Berger and I talked about the word victim and how many biblical counselors are abusing the term, which has led to insufficient care within the biblical counseling movement ranks. Daniel told me the word victim comes from the Latin root vicarious, which means taking… Continue Reading …

God Is Not on Your Side: You’re on His Side, or You’re Not

God Is Not On Your Side_ You're On His Side, or You're Not

Imperfect people steward neither blessings nor trials well. As Martin Luther said, we are curved inward on ourselves, meaning that self-interest rather than God’s glory or others’ good is what generally rules us, causing us to respond poorly to virtually everything that happens to us.… Continue Reading …

How To Know If Your Victimhood Has Become Your Identity

How to Know If Your Victimhood Has Become Your Identity

Being a victim of anything is one of the most challenging circumstances for a hurting soul to negotiate. The journey out of the effects of victimization is long. Some contours will challenge the victim to the broadest expanse of their soul. Their ultimate goal is… Continue Reading …

When the Abuse You See Clouds Biblical Interpretations

When the Abuse You See Clouds Biblical Interpretations

When abuse forms the lens through how you view what is happening in your life or among friends, it may discolor how you interpret and react to those experiences. I’m not suggesting that bad things are not happening to you or your friends, but I… Continue Reading …

The Abuse of Abuse Is Complicating Legitimate Abuse

The Abuse of Abuse Is Complicating Legitimate Abuse

The word abuse has become a catchall phrase with too many Christians. It’s a construct that is full of all sorts of things, and it’s now in danger of losing its worth. When you dilute a subject to include virtually anything, the original meaning is… Continue Reading …

Pick an Enemy! Now, Will You Do What Jesus Said: Love Them?

Pick an Enemy! Now, Will You Do What Jesus Said_ Love Them_

Roll through your mental index, identifying the kind of person or demographic you do not prefer, like, or try to avoid? Perhaps it’s something your spouse, child, parent, or church member does. Maybe it’s that Christian hypocrite who needs to get a life or someone… Continue Reading …

An Analysis of How To Destroy a Family, Church, or Country

An Analysis of How to Destroy a Family, Church, or Country

I listened to a podcast from Bret Weinstein and his wife, Heather Heying, where they talked about what is happening to our country, how we got this way, and a possible path forward. I will not repeat what Brett and Heather said here but will… Continue Reading …