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What’s Happening When I Won’t Forgive Someone?

What's Happening When I Won’t Forgive Someone

Forgiveness is one of the most challenging concepts for the Christian to come to terms with, particularly when someone has hurt the believer. The victims of crimes suffer the most. I know that was true for Jesus: He suffered for my sins, making the call… Continue Reading …

Humbly Assessing How Our Behaviors May Push Others Away from Christ

Humbly Assessing How Our Behaviors May Push Others Away from Christ

How do your attitudes, words, and actions move people? Our behavior motivates people in one direction or the other. We are pushing people toward Christ or away from Him. We’re not responsible for their choices, but we are vital secondary actors who must always think… Continue Reading …

A Tempting Facade for Defense That Further Enslaves the Abused

A Tempting Facade for Defense that Further Enslaves the Abused

Counseling abuse situations is challenging. The temptations to succumb to bad strategies are numerous. One of those is teaching the abused to fake strength to prove to their abuser that gaslighting and manipulation have no power. It’s an attractive facade of a defense that further… Continue Reading …

Do You Know How to Use the Unwanted Sin in Your Life Sinlessly?

Do You Know How to Use the Unwanted Sin In Your Life Sinlessly?

Are you able to use sin sinlessly? I am asking how do you respond to the inevitableness of sin in your life, whether it is yours or someone else’s? When wickedness comes, it will drive us in one of two directions. We will either fixate… Continue Reading …

How to Navigate the Quiet Contours of the Non-Talking Husband

How to Navigate the Quiet Contours of the Non-Talking Husband

Most relationships begin with a lot of talking and not so many frustrations. As the communicators continue in their relationship, complexity increases. Sometimes one of the partners becomes silent. He becomes quiet while the other partner is left to speculate on what happened. In this… Continue Reading …

What Are You to Do When God Does Not Respond Like You Hoped?

What Are You to Do When God Does Not Respond Like You Hoped

Humans were created for worship; it’s part of our ontology—the nature of our being—as determined by our Creator. You will worship something. If you worship the living God in spirit and truth, you will be transformed into His likeness; if you worship any version of… Continue Reading …

How You React to Fallen People Reveals What You Think about God

How You React to Fallen People Reveals What You Think About God

Every individual is part of the same human family, made by one Being, and connected to one another because of His creative work. The linkage that binds us together came from God’s mind and flowed through His creative hands—anthropomorphically speaking—in Genesis 1:27. Each person—regardless of… Continue Reading …

Thinking of Yourself as Victim Is One of the Worst Things You Can Do

Thinking of Yourself As Victim Is One of the Worst Things You Can Do001

Daniel Berger and I talked about the word victim and how many biblical counselors are abusing the term, which has led to insufficient care within the biblical counseling movement ranks. Daniel told me the word victim comes from the Latin root vicarious, which means taking… Continue Reading …

God Is Not on Your Side: You’re on His Side, or You’re Not

God Is Not On Your Side_ You're On His Side, or You're Not

Imperfect people steward neither blessings nor trials well. As Martin Luther said, we are curved inward on ourselves, meaning that self-interest rather than God’s glory or others’ good is what generally rules us, causing us to respond poorly to virtually everything that happens to us.… Continue Reading …

How to Know If Your Victimhood Has Become Your Identity

How to Know If Your Victimhood Has Become Your Identity

Being a victim of anything is one of the most challenging circumstances for a hurting soul to negotiate. The journey out of the effects of victimization is long. Some contours will challenge the victim to the broadest expanse of their soul. Their ultimate goal is… Continue Reading …