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The Most Important Things You’ll Ever Learn To Change

The Most Important Things You'll Ever Learn To Change

One of the more surprising things I have learned from a career in counseling is that the average Christian does not know how to change. The Bible’s word for change is repentance. Knowing how to do it is the most important thing you will ever… Continue Reading …

Trusting God Is Good, But You Need More When Suffering Comes

Trusting God Is Good, But You Need More When Suffering Comes

When you think about your sanctification, what do you believe regarding your role in it? Are you beholding to passive or active obedience or both? Passive is sitting, soaking, and trusting while active is doing something with your faith. When suffering comes, is trusting God… Continue Reading …

The Trap and the Escape of the Christian Idolater

The Trap and the Escape of the Christian Idolater

There is a problem for the Christian who believes he can live any way he wants to live because God has saved him. Though he is free from the penalty of sin, he is not free from idolatry’s consequences. Grace does not give him the… Continue Reading …

Thinking of Yourself as Victim Is One of the Worst Things You Can Do

Thinking of Yourself As Victim Is One of the Worst Things You Can Do001

Daniel Berger and I talked about the word victim and how many biblical counselors are abusing the term, which has led to insufficient care within the biblical counseling movement ranks. Daniel told me the word victim comes from the Latin root vicarious, which means taking… Continue Reading …

Four Things To Know When Working through Abuse

Four Things to Know When Working Through Abuse

Abuse is a broad category. In today’s culture, it may include micro-aggressions, which can be anything from subtle to intentional slights toward another person. On the other end of the abuse spectrum are some of the most heinous events that can happen to a human being.… Continue Reading …

Your Love Should Not Be Tough: It Should Be Merciful

Your Love Should Not Be Tough_ It Should Be Merciful

“Tough love” has become one of the mantras in modern Christian culture, i.e., love languages. Like many popularized sayings, it has taken on an unintended—harsh—meaning that does not bring about the peaceful fruit of righteousness. How do you think about tough love? What comes to… Continue Reading …

You Need To Budget the Expectation of Sin into Your Life

You Need to Budget the Expectation of Sin Into Your Life

One of the most natural things you will ever do is respond sinfully to the sin of another person. When you do this, it reveals a lot about how you think about yourself, the other person, and the Lord. Part of this problem is we… Continue Reading …

How to Connect the Gospel to Parental Discipline

How to Connect the Gospel to Parental Discipline

Parental discipline is not just a behavioral interaction between a parent and a child. There are hearts in play, too—the heart of the parent and the child. If the parent does not connect the gospel to his heart, the discipline will not go well, and… Continue Reading …

The Worst Happened When I Was Silent About My Sin

The Worst Happened When I Was Silent About My Sin

Are you more concerned about what God thinks about your sin or what others may think about your sin? Your thoughts about this crucial question will determine the quality of your life. The way you can know the answer to what controls your heart is… Continue Reading …

How Do I Help My Teen When He Does Not Want My Help?

How Do I Help My Teen When He Does Not Want My Help?

How do you help a teenage son when he does not want your help? You feel him distancing from you and the family, but he won’t communicate with you. Should you relax your expectations? Perhaps a more in-depth question is how is his behavior a… Continue Reading …