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How Do You Know If Someone Has Changed?

How Do You Know If Someone Has Changed

The transformation process is not mysterious, though it can be a big secret hidden from a Christian. The steps for repentance are objective, sequential, and transforming. You can change, and you can help others in their progressive sanctification. I want to help you distinguish between… Continue Reading …

How to Resist the Incremental Reality of Becoming a Dull Believer

How to Resist the Incremental Reality of Becoming a Dull Believer

Spiritual dullness in a community of Christlike disciple-makers is hard to imagine, but it happens all the time. We can lull ourselves to sleep, lose our gospel edge, and before long, we are ticking the Christian boxes without thinking. If the practice continues, we will… Continue Reading …

Seven Tips to Help Your Friends Who Are Suffering

Seven Tips To Help Your Friends Go Through Suffering

Sometimes the words we share when our friends are hurting are not the best things we should say. Saying the wrong thing is easy to do, which is why I’m sharing these seven ideas to help you navigate these challenging times with your suffering friends.… Continue Reading …

How the Ongoing Sin of Others Impacts Your Health

How the Ongoing Sin of Others Impacts Your Health01

The interplay between our physical and spiritual selves does not get enough talk time within the Christian community, especially how a conflict between two people can lead to diminishing health. I have counseled some couples with declining health problems that parallel the acrimonious relationships with… Continue Reading …

Can God Use Me: the Non-Disqualifying Grace of God

Can God Use Me the Non-Disqualifying Grace of God

God is not looking for a few good men or women or folks with specific character traits. It’s not our personalities or our wits that God wants. That is not how it works in the “grace of God world” where you and I live. Though… Continue Reading …

Twelve Addictive and Soul-Capturing Reasons Men Enjoy Porn

Twelve Addictive and Soul-Capturing Reasons Men Enjoy Porn

The sin that nobody wants to talk about is our penchant for pornography. If you want to silence a small group setting, bring up the topic of porn. It’s uncomfortable because so many of our friends are addicted to it, and for many of us,… Continue Reading …

What Is the Best Solution for the Gun Control Problem?

What Is the Best Solution for the Gun Control Problem

When mass shootings happen in our country, many reasonable people stand on both sides of the gun control debate. A mass shooting story rips all of our hearts out. It is nearly impossible to comprehend. It does not matter how many times you hear of… Continue Reading …

Do You Know How to Use the Unwanted Sin in Your Life Sinlessly?

Do You Know How to Use the Unwanted Sin In Your Life Sinlessly?

Are you able to use sin sinlessly? I am asking how do you respond to the inevitableness of sin in your life, whether it is yours or someone else’s? When wickedness comes, it will drive us in one of two directions. We will either fixate… Continue Reading …

The Most Important Things You’ll Ever Learn to Change

The Most Important Things You'll Ever Learn To Change

One of the more surprising things I have learned from a career in counseling is that the average Christian does not know how to change. The Bible’s word for change is repentance. Knowing how to do it is the most important thing you will ever… Continue Reading …

Trusting God Is Good, But You Need More When Suffering Comes

Trusting God Is Good, But You Need More When Suffering Comes

When you think about your sanctification, what do you believe regarding your role in it? Are you beholding to passive or active obedience or both? Passive is sitting, soaking, and trusting while active is doing something with your faith. When suffering comes, is trusting God… Continue Reading …