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I Will Forgive You for What You Did If You Promise to Change

Forgiveness is only one aspect of the change process. It is not a complete change when talking about repentance, but it is one of the mile markers that lead to change. Understanding the concept of forgiveness is vital because if you do not do it… Continue Reading …

Four Essentials That Authenticate Your Christianity

Four Essentials That Authenticate Your Christianity

Apart from your profession of faith, what is the supporting evidence you have that demonstrates that you are a Christian (John 3:7)? It’s a bold question, I know. But wouldn’t it be worthwhile on this side of heaven to evaluate such a vital matter? While… Continue Reading …

The Vital Difference between Godly and Worldly Sorrow

The Vital Difference Between Godly and Worldly Sorrow

How do you discern the difference between godly sorrow and worldly sorrow? Though the question may seem to be your “run-of-the-mill” Bible question, how you answer it will determine the quality of your life and relationships. You may want to read: Rick’s Counseling Notes on… Continue Reading …

The Problem with Expecting Someone to Change on Your Timetable

The Problem with Expecting Someone to Change on Your Timetable

In any discipleship situation, the discipler’s theology needs to inform the discipleship process. If not, the temptation of the discipler can cause the discipler to lose hope and even sin during the process. Let me share with you a case study to make this point.… Continue Reading …

Did You Know There Is a Better Way to Do Counseling?

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Sometimes when some people hear the words “biblical counseling,” they think about a two-tier system within Christianity: those who can counsel and those who cannot. Suppose biblical counseling means that to you. Perhaps it would be wise to change your thinking. God has given every… Continue Reading …

Seventeen Quick and Dirty Tips for Building a Relationship

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The best relationships are the messiest ones. At first glance, it sounds odd, right? How can good friendships be dirty? Because we’re fallen, broken people, and to live well with others requires getting into the muckiness of each others’ lives. If you’re interested in going… Continue Reading …

How to Tell If a Person in Trouble Is Genuine about Wanting Help

How to Tell If a Person In Trouble Is Genuine about Wanting Help

You have a friend in trouble. They appear to be at the end of themselves, but you’re not sure. You’re not uncharitably judging them, but you know that the only way they can experience restoration from God and satisfaction in Him is by being at… Continue Reading …

A Quick and Easy Way to Disqualify Yourself as a Parent

A Quick and Easy Way To Disqualify Yourself As A Parent

Anger from a parent complicates a child’s heart regardless of the content, tone, or direction of their anger. Because all children crave love and protective care, a parent’s anger will disrupt their hope, and if the parent does not change, it will send the child… Continue Reading …

The Most Important Things You’ll Ever Learn to Change

The Most Important Things You'll Ever Learn To Change

One of the more surprising things I have learned from a career in counseling is that the average Christian does not know how to change. The Bible’s word for change is repentance. Knowing how to do it is the most important thing you will ever… Continue Reading …

Five Helpful Marks to See If Someone Has Changed

Five Helpful Marks To See If Someone Has Changed

What is the most trustworthy indicator of a person who has authentically changed? How can you know—as much as one can understand? Paul gives us our answers, but first, let me tell you a story. You know who they are: it’s the life and times… Continue Reading …