“Tough love” has become one of the mantras in modern Christian culture, i.e., love languages. Like many popularized sayings, it has taken on an unintended—harsh—meaning that does not bring about the peaceful fruit of righteousness. How do you think about tough love? What comes to… Continue Reading …

Living in a relationship with someone requires a practical awareness of how to do it well. Each person is on a private and personal journey that is unlike any other, which means there will be times when helping your friends or enemies will be challenging.… Continue Reading …

Authentic Christianity is always on the mind of any discipler because it is crucial to discern such things with those who receive your care. As much as you can subjectively understand, the actual spiritual condition of a person is essential to know. And in this… Continue Reading …

If you are married, do you hate yourself? Let me ask it another way, “Do you dislike your spouse?” If you do struggle with your wife, you struggle with yourself because you’re not two individuals but one flesh. Whatever your thoughts are about your spouse… Continue Reading …

God’s grace is sufficient. God can change anyone. The Spirit can empower a person to change. God’s Word is sufficient. So why do some people not change? Listen to the podcast You may want to read: Seven Reasons a Person Will Not Change Should You… Continue Reading …

Your attempt to grow in humility is a threat to “self” and initiates an internal conflict as “self” seeks ways to maintain power and control in your life. This fourth chapter explores the role of self in your response to the difficulties of life. Read the… Continue Reading …

Submission is a hot topic in today’s culture, but it’s nothing new for the Christian. The Bible gives us guidelines on how to think about submitting to another person, even unrepentant spouses. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on iTunes, Google Play, SoundCloud, TuneIn,… Continue Reading …

One of the more surprising things I have learned from a career in counseling is the average Christian does not know how to change. The Bible word for change is repentance. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on iTunes, Google Play, SoundCloud, TuneIn, or… Continue Reading …

Every person who comes to you for help is not always interested in being free from their problems. Just because they are sharing their trouble with you does not mean they want to change. This issue is a common occurrence, and there are reasons they… Continue Reading …

Some teenagers feel as though the teenage years is a holding pattern. They are waiting for the next thing, which will happen after high school. They lack understanding, which leads to not stewarding their time well. While you’re waiting for your shot at your dream,… Continue Reading …