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To Those Who Are Angry with God for the Life They Have

To Those Who Are Angry with God for the Life They Have

Everybody is a victim. We all received a raw deal. And life is not fair. I’m not mocking anyone, but merely stating the obvious. Nobody comes into the world unscathed. We’re fallen individuals. In the Garden of Eden, Adam and Eve’s dastardly deed sent the… Continue Reading …

The Toxic and Damaging Effects of the Angry Dad

The Toxic and Damaging Effects of the Angry Dad

Few things are more frightening to a child than an angry dad. An angry father in the home is the metaphorical equivalent of rolling a child’s heart through a minefield. The angry dad forces the child to live between two worlds: strive to be perfect… Continue Reading …

When the Parent’s Anger Complicates the Life of the Child

When the Parent's Anger Complicates the Life of the Child

The angry heart does not have to direct its frustration toward anyone to complicate that relationship. All the angry person has to do is stand in the vicinity of those who receive the spillover of their anger. Whether you’re mad at someone or intoxicating the… Continue Reading …

The Surprising Truth of Why a Husband Devalues His Wife

The Surprising Truth of Why a Husband Devalues His Wife

A husband who devalues his wife did not just become this way. There is always a trail that leads to this outcome. Devaluing a spouse is a symptom, not a cause. There are two ways to keep from marrying such a selfish, devaluing man. One,… Continue Reading …

The Santa Claus Question: What Do I Tell My Children?

The Santa Claus Question What Do I Tell My Children

Rick, what are your thoughts on Santa, the Easter Bunny, and the Tooth Fairy as far as what you tell your kids? Do you say these characters are real or not? Is this harmless fun, or is there a problem with deception going on here?… Continue Reading …

You Just Caught Your Child Using Porn; What Are You to Do?

You Just Caught Your Child Using Porn; What Are You to Do (1)

A biblical counselor interviewed Rick Thomas about a situation he is counseling with parents who discovered their child is watching porn. The counselor asked questions that are in italics with Rick’s responses underneath. The fictionalized, flattened version of the story is the dad came to… Continue Reading …

You Must Know This Before You Counsel Anyone

You Must Know This Before You Counsel a Teen

Sometimes stereotypical counseling can get in the way of what you want to do with an individual, especially when the counselee has a preconceived, pessimistic instinct about where you want to go with him. You’ll see this with some teenagers, for example, because they sense… Continue Reading …

My Spouse Never Asks for Forgiveness; How Am I to Respond?

My Spouse Never Asks for Forgiveness; How Am I to Respond

Mable came to me, exclaiming, “I’m frustrated! I am always approaching my husband with my sin, asking for his forgiveness, but he seems never to see his need to ask me for forgiveness. Many times he won’t even bother to forgive me. What am I… Continue Reading …

A Simple Parenting Model to Use in Your Home

A Simple Parenting Model You May Use in Your Home

Here is a simple parenting model you can immediately apply in your home. It flows out of two words in Paul’s parenting verse in Ephesians 6:4. Paul is urging dads to bring their children up in the discipline and the instruction of the Lord. Discipline… Continue Reading …

When You Make Your Child Work for Your Affection

When You Make Your Child Work for Your Affection

Children should not work for affection. Christian parents imitate God; one way to do this is by loving them just because they are their children. We know our children are not perfect, and there is a time to deal with their imperfections, but love should… Continue Reading …