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How to Prepare Your Heart When a Tragedy Happens

How to Prepare Your Heart for National Tragedies

Sometimes the English language is inadequate for conveying our thoughts. Words always seem to fall short when there is a personal or national tragedy. Tragedies remind me of Job’s friends who made a wise choice in the beginning not to speak so quickly. Horrific events… Continue Reading …

Silent Treatment Is the Sanitized Version of Murder

Silent treatment is the sanitized version of murder

Expressing anger through silence is an all-too-common communication conflict in too many relationships. The silent partner pretends the other person does not exist by ignoring them. Silent treatment sounds horrible enough, but if you place it within James’s framework for anger, what we’re talking about… Continue Reading …

The Damaging Effects of Our Anger When We Don’t Own It

Damaging Effects of Our Anger When We Don't Own It

Sinful anger is regularly minimized, even among Christians—or especially among Christians. We often reclassify anger to lesser-sounding offenses—to better-sounding sin categories. Typically, when I talk to people about being angry, the response is usually along the lines of, “Oh no, I’m not an angry person.… Continue Reading …

Diagramming the Heart of the Angry Person

Diagramming the Heart of the Angry Person

Have you ever wondered what is going on in the mind of the angry person? It’s not what you might think. Anger is our most common and problematic enemy that can set up camp in our hearts. If practiced often, it can become a habit… Continue Reading …

How to Think about Losing a Family Member through Murder

How to Think About Losing a Family Member Through Murder

On April 18, 1997, I got the call that nobody ever wants to receive. My sister-in-law called to let me know that she killed my brother. I remember writing in my journal that it was a sunny, 67-degree day. It was a perfect day—until that… Continue Reading …

How to Overcome Our Most Damaging Response to Frustrating Times

How to Overcome Our Most Damaging Response to Frustrating Times

It’s possible to let your thoughts run to places that are not redemptive during frustrating and disappointing times. We are in those times. The two primary strongholds are fear and anger. Fearfulness captures too many of us in dire situations while others respond angrily at… Continue Reading …

The Worst Happened When I Was Silent About My Sin

The Worst Happened When I Was Silent About My Sin

Are you more concerned about what God thinks about your sin or what others may think about your sin? Your thoughts about this crucial question will determine the quality of your life. The way you can know the answer to what controls your heart is… Continue Reading …

Gay Logic: How In the World Did You Ever Believe This?

Gay Logic How In the World Did You Ever Believe This?

Dear Gay Friend, as you read this or listen to the podcast, I appeal to you to differentiate between my affection for you and my opinion about your life choices. Agreement with your lifestyle choices and love for you are not mutual necessities. Likewise, I… Continue Reading …

A Quick and Simple Way to Know a Person

Show me a person’s friends and the content that he consumes, and I will tell you what kind of individual he is. The quickest and most straightforward way to know a person is by assessing their relationships and the things that they put into their… Continue Reading …

Cynicism Is a Response of the Disappointed

An unprepared heart will not receive disappointment well. And when it comes, which it undoubtedly will, the temptation to become a cynic will be powerful. The cynic cocoons himself from hurt while distrusting the active goodness of God in his life. Listen to the podcast… Continue Reading …