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The Santa Claus Question: What Do I Tell My Children?

The Santa Claus Question_ What Do I Tell My Children

Supporting Member Question: Rick, what are your thoughts on Santa, the Easter Bunny, and the Tooth Fairy as far as what you tell your kids? Do you say these characters are real or not? Is this harmless fun, or is there a problem with deception… Continue Reading …

Sometimes It’s Better to Say Nothing When You’re Right

Sometimes It's Better to Say Nothing When You're Right

Being right is a tricky thing. Did you know that being right does not always mean you have to communicate what you know to be true? How good are you at discerning when to speak and not to speak as you consider the person who… Continue Reading …

The Worst Happened When I Was Silent About My Sin

The Worst Happened When I Was Silent About My Sin

Are you more concerned about what God thinks about your sin or what others may think about your sin? Your thoughts about this crucial question will determine the quality of your life. The way you can know the answer to what controls your heart is… Continue Reading …

The Number One Sign Of Authentic Christianity

Authentic Christianity is always on the mind of any discipler because it is crucial to discern such things with those who receive your care. As much as you can subjectively understand, the actual spiritual condition of a person is essential to know. And in this… Continue Reading …

How Do You Help a Person Who Is Stuck on Herself?

Trying to be perfect in an imperfect world to garner the good opinion of others will hurt your relationships with God, family, and friends. Let me illustrate how this works with my friend Mable. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on iTunes, Google Play,… Continue Reading …

Secret-Keeping Destroys Lives and Relationships

There is a temptation with all of us to keep certain things hidden from others. Our high sense of shame and self-awareness tempts us from the purpose of the gospel, which is transformation in a community of grace. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are… Continue Reading …

Counseling Can Be a Lying Profession

I had a conversation with two counselees, and the issue of lying came up. I mentioned to them that telling falsehoods is a regular part of my profession. It was a sad, but true statement. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on iTunes, Google… Continue Reading …

Cheap Law – Lowering God’s Standard To Be Perfect

Cheap Law: Lowering God's Standard to Be Perfect

You have two choices. You can strive to be perfect, or you can accept the perfection of someone else. That’s it. The only way to be perfect is never to make a mistake or find someone who will vouch for you. Listen to the podcast… Continue Reading …

Seven Reasons a Person Will Not Change

Every person who comes to you for help is not always interested in being free from their problems. Just because they are sharing their trouble with you does not mean they want to change. This issue is a common occurrence, and there are reasons they… Continue Reading …

Case Study: Your High Standards Tempt Me to Lie

Mable is insecure. It is hard for her to admit mistakes. Trying to be perfect in an imperfect world while craving the opinion of others are two ways in which her self-righteousness truncates her relationships with God and others. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts… Continue Reading …