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The Unintended Spiritual Benefits of Legalism

The Unintended Spiritual Benefits of Legalism

Being holy is not legalism. Being an obedient and disciplined Christian does not have to be legalistic either. If something is wrong, an overreaction to that bad thing is also an inadequate response. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on iTunes, Google Play, SoundCloud,… Continue Reading …

Are Christians Supposed to Have Fun?

One of our members asked me about a worldview on having fun. She wondered if she was supposed to have fun, and she expressed how there seems to be an element of mystery about what fun should look like for a Christian. Listen to the… Continue Reading …

Christian Legalism: People-Pleasing and Performance Traps

Christian Legalism, People-Pleasing and Performance Traps

Legalism is the bane of religion. It’s the persistent nemesis in all of our hearts. Though we usually discuss legalism as it pertains to our salvation, I’m speaking more here of how it affects our sanctification. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on iTunes,… Continue Reading …

The Joy-Depleting Problem Of Being Reared In a Christian Home

We don’t like thinking about our awfulness because we resist the biblical declaration that we’re rotten to the core (Isaiah 64:6). A person with a high view of himself gets hung up on his fallenness. Ironically, it is the acceptance of your wickedness that releases… Continue Reading …

The Danger of Pragmatic Parenting

Parenting children is one of the hardest things you’ll ever do. There are many temptations for parents, the biggest of which is to be result-oriented because it’s easier to make children behave than doing the hard work of training them. Listen to the podcast Our… Continue Reading …

The Danger of the “Grace Mistake”

Grace and gospel go hand-in-hand. You cannot have one without the other, and you never minimize either one. The first is the means to the second. Grace is the undeserved favor that permits you to enjoy the gospel. The danger in some “hyper-grace” cultures is… Continue Reading …

The Reward Of Doing It In the Dark

Do you find it difficult to look your spouse in the eye so you can communicate intimately? Is it hard for you to be vulnerable with your spouse? If so, I have some practical advice for you. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on… Continue Reading …

Connecting the Gospel to Perfectionism

Perfectionism is a fear-motivated response from a person not comfortable with who she is. She realizes something is wrong with her. She senses an “internal awkwardness.” She is not comfortable in her skin. Rather than fleeing to God to fix what is wrong, her solution… Continue Reading …

How Authoritarian Parents Rear Legalistic Children

The authoritarian parenting style is a rule-based teaching model that is devoid of nurturing. Too often this parenting model lacks the support and unique guidance that shepherds children toward living well in God’s world as adults. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on iTunes,… Continue Reading …

Four Things You Must Know About Your Suffering

Our religion could be an enjoyable experience if suffering were not part of our lives. The pain was my biggest disappointment and greatest frustration after becoming a Christian. Listen to the podcast You may want to read: The Danger of Trying to Please God Do… Continue Reading …