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Here Are Rick’s Counseling Notes with a Counselee on Guilt and Fear

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These are the actual counseling notes from a friend that I met with for counseling. She permitted me to share them, which I altered slightly and flattened out for public distribution. Counseling notes miss a lot of data. While they cover the breadth of one… Continue Reading …

Learning How to Trust God with Your Communication Problems

Learning How to Trust God With Your Communication Problems

There is a problem trusting God when His ways seem foolish, and we have a well-worn habit of getting what we want through our self-reliant means. Of course, when we choose human wisdom and strength over God’s, it will have a debilitating effect on our… Continue Reading …

Learning How to Take All Your Bad Thoughts Captive

Have you ever accused yourself of something that was not true? It’s when you gaslight yourself: telling yourself something that is not true. Any false argument launched against yourself can turn into a stronghold in your mind that could be spiritually debilitating. You are susceptible… Continue Reading …

When the Parent’s Anger Complicates the Life of the Child

When the Parent's Anger Complicates the Life of the Child

The angry heart does not have to direct its frustration toward anyone to complicate that relationship. Of course, you can be mad with someone, and it will damage your redemptive goals with them. But whether you have a general condition of anger or you go… Continue Reading …

Thinking of Yourself as Victim Is One of the Worst Things You Can Do

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Daniel Berger and I talked about the word victim and how many biblical counselors are abusing the term, which has led to insufficient care within the biblical counseling movement ranks. Daniel told me the word victim comes from the Latin root vicarious, which means taking… Continue Reading …

The Need to Know How Choices to Feel Better Are Addictive

The Need to Know How Choices to Feel Better Are Addictive

Every family in America has experienced the adverse impact of sexual-related issues. The Internet, sexual abuse, fornication, adultery, and our bent toward immodest clothes, makeup, and presenting ourselves a certain way are part of the word cloud that describes this sexual pandemic. What may surprise… Continue Reading …

7 Things That Will Bring Change to Any Angry Teen’s Life

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Teenagers don’t have to be angry or disconnected, but many of them are. Rather than speculating on why they are this way, some practical advice on how to change would be appropriate. This article is for that teenager who is looking for help to change… Continue Reading …

How Your Unguarded Strength Can Become a Double Weakness

How Your Unguarded Strength Can Become a Double Weakness

What are your strengths and weakness, the primary ones that come to mind? I’m sure you guard against letting your weaknesses rule over you. But how vigilant are you in protecting yourself from your strengths? How aware are you that your strengths could be more… Continue Reading …

Speaking to the Practical Role of Fathers with Children

Speaking to the Practical Role of Fathers with Children

Having two genders is not just a neat way to think about the human family. There are functional and irreplaceable roles for each gender. When it comes to parenting, the dad and mom have unique purposes, practices, and effects on children. In this article, I’m… Continue Reading …

Responding to Friends Who Do Things That Make You Uncomfortable

How to Respond to Friends Do Things That Make You Uncomfortable

When someone does something that you don’t like, you have several options from which to choose. You can consent to what they said or did and be like them. You could confront and rebuke them. Or you can try to ignore what just happened, which… Continue Reading …