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A Tempting Facade for Defense That Further Enslaves the Abused

A Tempting Facade for Defense that Further Enslaves the Abused

Counseling abuse situations is challenging. The temptations to succumb to bad strategies are numerous. One of those is teaching the abused to fake strength to prove to their abuser that gaslighting and manipulation have no power. It’s an attractive facade of a defense that further… Continue Reading …

Finding Your Voice To Be Who God Wants You To Be

Finding Your Voice to Be Who God Wants You to Be

The temptation for all of us is to conform to the status quo. We have a herd mentality that drives us to conformity. Of course, a bully culture will cancel you if you step outside their clearly defined lines. There are not many unique personalities… Continue Reading …

To Wear a Mask or Not Is Not the Most Important Question

To Wear a Mask or Not Is Not the Most Important Question

Should you wear a mask in public? Perhaps you do, and it’s a non-issue for you. Praise God. I’m sure you’re aware that many of your friends are not where you are. It never occurred to me to write on this subject, but it has… Continue Reading …

Thinking about Those People Who Are Not like You

Thinking About Those People Who Are Not Like You

As the divide in our country continues to widen, the temptation to be harsh, sinfully angry, or retaliate in ungodly ways toward those who think differently from you is high. There are times when we can think more highly of ourselves and less considerate of… Continue Reading …

Your Love Should Not Be Tough: It Should Be Merciful

Your Love Should Not Be Tough_ It Should Be Merciful

“Tough love” has become one of the mantras in modern Christian culture, i.e., love languages. Like many popularized sayings, it has taken on an unintended—harsh—meaning that does not bring about the peaceful fruit of righteousness. How do you think about tough love? What comes to… Continue Reading …

The Surprising Truth of Why a Husband Devalues His Wife

The Surprising Truth Why a Husband Devalues His Wife

Mable met Biff when she was seventeen. He seemed to be the perfect guy, at least to her. Biff showed love to her, and she liked the idea of someone loving her. Within a year of dating, they were having sex. She realized her “value”… Continue Reading …

When You Manipulate Change, You Damage the Relationship

You may have a good desire for someone, but if your methods are manipulative and forceful, you will blow-up the relationship. Each person is different, and you must understand them before you attempt to help them change. Knowing your audience, whether a spouse, child, or… Continue Reading …

Creating a Critical-Free Community On Facebook Platforms

I have a like/dislike relationship with Facebook. On the positive side, I see Facebook as a great opportunity to stay in touch with family members and friends, especially those who live across the country or around the world. Facebook is also good, though not a perfect,… Continue Reading …

Mean Husbands and Wives Who Want to Love Them

Both husbands and wives can be mean to each other. This truth is sad as well as a call to mobilize your attitudes and actions to come alongside the erring spouse. How do you do that? How do you care for a mean spouse? Listen… Continue Reading …

A Gospel-Centered Response to Criticism

When someone corrects you, and it hurts, one of the most significant tips for you to remember is that God has already said the worst things about you on Calvary’s hill. And with the most horrible comments about you previously communicated, you have nothing to… Continue Reading …