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Can God Use Me: the Non-Disqualifying Grace of God

Can God Use Me the Non-Disqualifying Grace of God

God is not looking for a few good men or women or folks with specific character traits. It’s not our personalities or our wits that God wants. That is not how it works in the “grace of God world” where you and I live. Though… Continue Reading …

My Husband Never Asks for Forgiveness. How Am I to Respond?

My Husband Never Asks for Forgiveness. How Am I to Respond? 001

I’m frustrated! I am always approaching my husband with my sin, asking for his forgiveness, but he seems never to see his need to ask me for forgiveness. Many times he won’t even bother to forgive me. What am I to do? How am I… Continue Reading …

I Will Forgive You for What You Did If You Promise to Change

Forgiveness is only one aspect of the change process. It is not a complete change when talking about repentance, but it is one of the mile markers that lead to change. Understanding the concept of forgiveness is vital because if you do not do it… Continue Reading …

How to Think about Losing a Family Member through Murder

How to Think About Losing a Family Member Through Murder

On April 18, 1997, I got the call that nobody ever wants to receive. My sister-in-law called to let me know that she killed my brother. I remember writing in my journal that it was a sunny, 67-degree day. It was a perfect day—until that… Continue Reading …

Are You a Tomb Dweller or a Resurrected Christian?

The resurrected Christian is a different kind of person—someone the world has never seen outside our community. The Christian is as diverse as darkness and light, death and life. For some Christians, their new birth's authentic reality is challenging to practicalize in their day-to-day lives. The cross of Christ settled our eternal sin problem with a holy God, while the resurrection of Christ opened a new and better way for us to live with Him forever

The resurrected Christian is a different kind of person—someone the world has never seen outside our community. The Christian is as diverse as darkness and light, death and life. For some Christians, their new birth’s authentic reality is challenging to practicalize in their day-to-day lives.… Continue Reading …

Will You Please Help Me? I Do Not Like My Spouse Anymore

Will You Please Help Me_ I Do Not Like My Spouse Anymore

When you fall out of love with your spouse, your marriage takes a drastic turn that few couples can alter. Long before the love sets sail, there are signs that point to a future disappointing season. Mable saw the signs but did not reach out… Continue Reading …

The Most Important Things You’ll Ever Learn to Change

The Most Important Things You'll Ever Learn To Change

One of the more surprising things I have learned from a career in counseling is that the average Christian does not know how to change. The Bible’s word for change is repentance. Knowing how to do it is the most important thing you will ever… Continue Reading …

Four Things to Know When Working through Abuse

Four Things to Know When Working Through Abuse

Abuse is a broad category. In today’s culture, it may include micro-aggressions, which can be anything from subtle to intentional slights toward another person. On the other end of the abuse spectrum are some of the most heinous events that can happen to a human being.… Continue Reading …

You Have No Choice But to Resolve Conflict with Others

You Have No Choice But to Resolve Conflict with Others

Is there someone in your life with whom you struggle? Stated differently, who bothers you? Has someone done something that has brought friction into your relationship with them? What if you flipped the question around: have you done something to someone that has caused friction?… Continue Reading …

How to Create the Aroma of Gratitude in Your Home

How to Create the Aroma of Gratitude In Your Home

Describe the aroma of your home. Would you say it’s a place where joy, gratitude, and thanksgiving are regularly wafting through the rooms? As you think about the environment in your home, perhaps you can narrow the focus down to yourself (Matthew 7:3-5). How aggressive… Continue Reading …