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Irritated over What a Person Does Will Keep You from Helping Them

Irritated Over What a Person Does Will Keep You from Helping Them

Have you ever been in a situation with a person who needed your help but could not receive your help because your baggage was so significant that it interfered with what you could have done for the person in need? I’m talking about your hangups… Continue Reading …

How To Train Your Flea, Or How To Control Others

How To Train Your Flea, Or How To Control Others

Have you ever trained a flea? It’s a simple process. You place a flea or a flock of fleas (not sure if flock is the right word) in a Mason jar and tighten the lid. Next, you leave the flea(s) in the jar for three… Continue Reading …

How To Respond to a Gossiper Who Wants Me To Do More

How to Respond to the Grumbling Church Member Who Wants More

Have you been on the receiving end of gossip? How did you respond? What did your reaction reveal about your walk with the Lord? One of the most challenging relational opportunities is when someone gossips about you. When it happens, there are several options for… Continue Reading …

When the Parent’s Anger Complicates the Life of the Child

When the Parent's Anger Complicates the Life of the Child

The angry heart does not have to direct its frustration toward anyone to complicate that relationship. Of course, you can be mad with someone, and it will damage your redemptive goals with them. But whether you have a general condition of anger or you go… Continue Reading …

Every Person Who Withholds the Truth Is Not Lying

Every Person Who Withholds the Truth Is Not Lying

A counseling office is a place for trust, truth, and honesty, but sometimes getting to this place is not straightforward. For example, a counselee may withhold the truth about themselves because they are not confident the counselor is trustworthy. They are vetting the counselor. Every… Continue Reading …

How Your Unguarded Strength Can Become a Double Weakness

How Your Unguarded Strength Can Become a Double Weakness

What are your strengths and weakness, the primary ones that come to mind? I’m sure you guard against letting your weaknesses rule over you. But how vigilant are you in protecting yourself from your strengths? How aware are you that your strengths could be more… Continue Reading …

When You Worry About Your Sin, You Hinder the Gospel

When You Worry About Your Sin, You Hinder the Gospel

The time it takes you to ask for forgiveness and feeling forgiven while enjoying the freedom of that forgiveness reveals your practical understanding and application of the gospel. For some folks, when they sin, they go through a “worry period” because they have not come… Continue Reading …

Hiding Behind Grace To Avoid The Hard Things

Sometimes “extending grace” may mean you’re about to get into conflict. Though you should never look for a fight, you should also not be looking for ways to avoid soul care when it is within your competency and influence to help someone who is struggling.… Continue Reading …

The Story of the Boy Who Was Controlled By Others

I was counseling a teen who said to me, “Mr. Thomas, you don’t wear Walmart to high school.” It was great! In his simple way, he clearly articulated what every human on the planet feels. He’s insecure, and he’s willing to give up his life… Continue Reading …

Being Afraid of Your Daddy May Make You Afraid of God

Being Afraid of Your Daddy Will Make You Afraid of God

To fear God is not to be afraid of Him, but to be drawn into ever-growing awe, amazement, and wonder as you think about and relate to Him. The love of our heavenly Father is extraordinary, though it’s not always a child’s first experience with… Continue Reading …