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Discipleship Is Not Primarily about Changing Circumstances

Imagine the Apostle Paul coming to you with a thorn stuck in his flesh, metaphorically speaking, and wanting your help. What would be your primary goal as you try to serve Paul? Would you try to help him change his circumstances primarily, or would you… Continue Reading …

Emotional Problems Point to a Poor Thought Life

Your emotions can be good or bad, but in either case, they reflect what is going on in your thought life. If the emotions are right, the person is thinking and responding biblically. If the emotions are not good, the person needs your compassionate and… Continue Reading …

How to Care for the Professional Victim

Thinking like a victim is easy to do. Becoming a professional victim takes more work, but it can happen, especially if you’ve experienced repeated hurt for an extended period. And even though you are suffering, the Lord is calling you to a better life, a… Continue Reading …

Mind Mapping a Marriage from Bad to Good

Our behaviors reveal our hearts. If you get a discerning handle on a person’s actions, you will find clues to what may be going on in their heart. This kind of careful consideration of others will position you to be a “more effective Jesus” to… Continue Reading …

Will God Get It Right: the Accusation of the Worrier

Will God Get It Right_ the Accusation of the Worrier

An individual characterized by worry is a person who is uncertain if God will get things right. Not only is the worrier unsure as to whether God will get it right, but the worrier will typically take matters into their own hands. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts… Continue Reading …

Why I Do Not Believe in God Any Longer

It seems that nearly every person who becomes a believer and then walks away from their faith or away from the church does so because of disillusionment or disappointment. The simple response is to say that they never believed God, but that response lacks nuance… Continue Reading …

Three Reasons God Is Not Able to Help You

“Trust God” is an overused cliché that some folks often scorn as over-simplistic counseling advice that can, at times, come across as harsh or uncaring. Then again, to trust God is our greatest challenge as well as our greatest need. Listen to the podcast Our… Continue Reading …

Sometimes God Makes You do Things You Don’t Want to Do

How can a good and loving God allow such a horrific event in my life? It’s a valid question. If you have not asked some version of this question, you have lived a charmed life, or you have a faith that all Christians desire. Listen… Continue Reading …

Will You Help Me? My Ex-spouse Is Ruining Our Children

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Divorce is the worse thing that can happen in a marriage because it never ends. Death is final, but divorce has another life. And in that life, the ex-spouse can continue to complicate matters. In most of these situations, the problems have something to do… Continue Reading …

Rick, Why Won’t You Counsel Another Way?

A counselee asked why I won’t counsel another way. She discerned a death feel to my counseling, and she was struggling. Though she does not disagree with my counseling approach, she did feel compelled to share her internal angst with me. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts… Continue Reading …