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The Problem with Expecting Someone to Change on Your Timetable

The Problem with Expecting Someone to Change on Your Timetable

In any discipleship situation, the discipler’s theology needs to inform the discipleship process. If not, the temptation of the discipler can cause the discipler to lose hope and even sin during the process. Let me share with you a case study to make this point.… Continue Reading …

Did You Know There Is a Better Way to Do Counseling?

Did you know this is a better way to do counseling_

Sometimes when some people hear the words “biblical counseling,” they think about a two-tier system within Christianity: those who can counsel and those who cannot. Suppose biblical counseling means that to you. Perhaps it would be wise to change your thinking. God has given every… Continue Reading …

The Care of Souls Is Mostly about Prayer and Prophecy

Discipleship Is Mostly about Prayer and Prophecy

A friend asked what I would say to a counselee I have yet to meet. I said that I have no idea what I would say until I meet them. I’m not sure what he wants or what he is going to ask me. I don’t… Continue Reading …

The Most Important Things You’ll Ever Learn to Change

The Most Important Things You'll Ever Learn To Change

One of the more surprising things I have learned from a career in counseling is that the average Christian does not know how to change. The Bible’s word for change is repentance. Knowing how to do it is the most important thing you will ever… Continue Reading …

Counseling Today: Standing on Jay Adams’ Shoulders

Standing On Jay's Shoulders

“I’m thinking about pursuing counselor training and had some questions about the process, as well as the type of training organization from which I should receive my training. The counseling movement has changed over the past fifty years. Would you be willing to speak to… Continue Reading …

How to Respond to a Gossiper Who Wants Me to Do More

How to Respond to the Grumbling Church Member Who Wants More

Have you been on the receiving end of gossip? How did you respond? What did your reaction reveal about your walk with the Lord? One of the most challenging relational opportunities is when someone gossips about you. When it happens, there are several options for… Continue Reading …

7 Conditions That Make It More Difficult to Help a Child

7 Conditions That Make It More Difficult to Help a Child

There are specific conditions where it’s more challenging to help a child change. It’s vital to know these things if your child is not walking with the Lord. The great news is that there is always hope because you can do something about it. Hope… Continue Reading …

How Do I Begin a Counseling Ministry at My Church?

How Do I Begin a Counseling Ministry At My Church

Biff wants to begin a counseling ministry in his local church. The leadership is aware of the church’s sanctification needs; they want help and humbly acknowledge this need. They asked Biff to propose a plan. He asked me how to go about this new endeavor.… Continue Reading …

Why Should I Disciple If God Has to Grant Repentance First?

Why Should I Disciple If God Has to Grant Repentance First?

One of the most tedious and mysterious questions you will ever ponder is the tension between God’s role in our lives and our responsibility to respond to Him. Ultimately, the problem is unanswerable in a satisfying way. But an unresolvable conundrum does not mean we… Continue Reading …

The Destructive Force of Empathy, and Why You Need to Know

The Destructive Force of Empathy, and Why You Need to Know

Before you go any further in this article, please answer this question. The reason I want you to do this is that your definitions of empathy and sympathy will describe who you are, how you think, and the kind of care you provide for others.… Continue Reading …