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The Most Important Things You’ll Ever Learn To Change

The Most Important Things You'll Ever Learn To Change

One of the more surprising things I have learned from a career in counseling is that the average Christian does not know how to change. The Bible’s word for change is repentance. Knowing how to do it is the most important thing you will ever… Continue Reading …

Counseling Today: Standing on Jay Adams’ Shoulders

Standing On Jay's Shoulders

“I’m thinking about pursuing counselor training and had some questions about the process, as well as the type of training organization from which I should receive my training. The counseling movement has changed over the past fifty years. Would you be willing to speak to… Continue Reading …

How To Respond to a Gossiper Who Wants Me To Do More

How to Respond to the Grumbling Church Member Who Wants More

Have you been on the receiving end of gossip? How did you respond? What did your reaction reveal about your walk with the Lord? One of the most challenging relational opportunities is when someone gossips about you. When it happens, there are several options for… Continue Reading …

7 Conditions That Make It More Difficult To Help a Child

7 Conditions That Make It More Difficult to Help a Child

There are specific conditions where it’s more challenging to help a child change. It’s vital to know these things if your child is not walking with the Lord. The great news is that there is always hope because you can do something about it. Hope… Continue Reading …

How Do I Begin a Counseling Ministry at My Church?

How Do I Begin a Counseling Ministry At My Church

Biff wants to begin a counseling ministry in his local church. The leadership is aware of the church’s sanctification needs; they want help and humbly acknowledge this need. They asked Biff to propose a plan. He asked me how to go about this new endeavor.… Continue Reading …

Why Should I Disciple If God Has to Grant Repentance First?

Why Should I Disciple If God Has to Grant Repentance First?

One of the most tedious and mysterious questions you will ever ponder is the tension between God’s role in our lives and our responsibility to respond to Him. Ultimately, the problem is unanswerable in a satisfying way. But an unresolvable conundrum does not mean we… Continue Reading …

The Destructive Force of Empathy, and Why You Need to Know

The Destructive Force of Empathy, and Why You Need to Know

Before you go any further in this article, please answer this question. The reason I want you to do this is that your definitions of empathy and sympathy will describe who you are, how you think, and the kind of care you provide for others.… Continue Reading …

What Can I Do About Being Fearful of Discipling Others?

What Can I Do About Being Fearful of Discipling Others?

Do you ever feel fear when it comes to the responsibility that comes with counseling people biblically? I teach with much fear and trembling, but not just because I am held accountable. When it comes to counseling people one-on-one, I find it fulfilling yet also… Continue Reading …

How to Find Comfort Knowing You Can’t Change People

How to Find Comfort Knowing You Can't Change People

The unchanging person is the loving caregiver’s greatest struggle. You love them and want to help them. You pour out your heart for them. But they do not change. Sometimes you push too hard. Other times, you give up. Knowing how to respond to each… Continue Reading …

The First Thing to Know When Caring For Someone

The First Thing to Know When Caring For Someone

When you are about to disciple someone, where do you begin as far as developing a plan for their discipleship care? Your starting point will determine how you will act during the process, as well as how you finish your care of them. Listen to… Continue Reading …