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A Crazy Idea For Sanctification: the Local Church

A Crazy Idea For Sanctification the Local Church (1)

One-to-one interaction is the most efficient way to help another person change. For too many believers, discipleship in a community, in the context of a local church, is not the norm. Favorite books and preachers become our disciplers, which is not God’s best no matter… Continue Reading …

When the Thing That Protects You Becomes Your Prison

When the Thing that Protects You Becomes Your Prison

Some relationships can become so painful that you must retreat while implementing self-protective measures to prevent being hurt again. The unintended consequence is that the strategies for protection can imprison you, which is what happened to Mable. Her husband was harming her so she did… Continue Reading …

You Must Know This Before You Counsel Anyone

You Must Know This Before You Counsel a Teen

Sometimes stereotypical counseling can get in the way of what you want to do with an individual, especially when the counselee has a preconceived, pessimistic instinct about where you want to go with him. You’ll see this with some teenagers, for example, because they sense… Continue Reading …

The Number One All-Time Personal Problem, Ever

The #1 All-Time Personal Problem . . . Ever02

All Christians have one common problem that sits foundationally at the core of their being; it is the biggest struggle in their lives. It makes sense, right? If each person’s mightiest battle were unique to them and dissimilar to everyone else, you’d have to be… Continue Reading …

The Problem with Expecting Someone to Change on Your Timetable

The Problem with Expecting Someone to Change on Your Timetable

In any discipleship situation, the discipler’s theology needs to inform the discipleship process. If not, the temptation of the discipler can cause the discipler to lose hope and even sin during the process. Let me share with you a case study to make this point.… Continue Reading …

Did You Know There Is a Better Way to Do Counseling?

Did you know this is a better way to do counseling_

Sometimes when some people hear the words “biblical counseling,” they think about a two-tier system within Christianity: those who can counsel and those who cannot. Suppose biblical counseling means that to you. Perhaps it would be wise to change your thinking. God has given every… Continue Reading …

The Care of Souls Is Mostly about Prayer and Prophecy

Discipleship Is Mostly about Prayer and Prophecy

A friend asked what I would say to a counselee I have yet to meet. I said that I have no idea what I would say until I meet them. I’m not sure what he wants or what he is going to ask me. I don’t… Continue Reading …

The Most Important Things You’ll Ever Learn to Change

The Most Important Things You'll Ever Learn To Change

One of the more surprising things I have learned from a career in counseling is that the average Christian does not know how to change. The Bible’s word for change is repentance. Knowing how to do it is the most important thing you will ever… Continue Reading …

Counseling Today: Standing on Jay Adams’ Shoulders

Standing On Jay's Shoulders

“I’m thinking about pursuing counselor training and had some questions about the process, as well as the type of training organization from which I should receive my training. The counseling movement has changed over the past fifty years. Would you be willing to speak to… Continue Reading …

How to Respond to a Gossiper Who Wants Me to Do More

How to Respond to the Grumbling Church Member Who Wants More

Have you been on the receiving end of gossip? How did you respond? What did your reaction reveal about your walk with the Lord? One of the most challenging relational opportunities is when someone gossips about you. When it happens, there are several options for… Continue Reading …