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8 Signs of Spiritual Abuse To See If It’s Happening to You

8 Signs of Spiritual Abuse to See If It's Happening to You

Supporting Member – Can you give some clear examples of signs of how a pastor or church leader is crossing the line from being a shepherd to a spiritual abuser? It would be helpful to know when to support a pastor when he is genuinely… Continue Reading …

An Analysis of How To Destroy a Family, Church, or Country

An Analysis of How to Destroy a Family, Church, or Country

I listened to a podcast from Bret Weinstein and his wife, Heather Heying, where they talked about what is happening to our country, how we got this way, and a possible path forward. I will not repeat what Brett and Heather said here but will… Continue Reading …

How To Think about a God Who Permits Sin in Your Life

How to Think About a God Who Permits Sin In Your Life

How many ways are available from the Lord to help you grow up in Christ? Most folks would say things like the Bible, prayer, church, and close friends. They are correct. Those are four essential means of grace for maturing in Christlikeness. Here’s one more.… Continue Reading …

Fellowship Is the Missing Link in Most Relationships

Fellowship Is the Missing Link In Most Relationships

Many marriages, families, and churches have a common link—a missing one. In a word, it’s fellowship. I’m not speaking of having a social conversation with someone. Biblically speaking, fellowship is when two or more people willingly, humbly, openly, transparently, honestly, and vulnerably share themselves reciprocally,… Continue Reading …

Excellent Ideas That Will Help Your Church Before It’s Too Late

Excellent Ideas That Will Help Your Church Before It's Too Late

Everyone is carrying a silent disease in their body. You don’t know it and won’t know it until there is a visible manifestation of it. In some cases, it’s too late. The local church is similar. Sin is a silent killer that can infect an… Continue Reading …

The Dangerous Dark Side of a Shared Belief System

There is a psychological positive within any community that has a shared belief system. You believe the same things, and you benefit from the relationships that flow out of those shared beliefs. The dangerous dark side of these communities is when you compromise what you… Continue Reading …

Interview with Pastor Mike Hawkins about Caring for Others

I interviewed my friend, Pastor Mike Hawkins about his life, pastoring, counseling, and how our ministry intersects with his on a day-to-day basis. I have known Mike for a few years, and we have been in the trenches with many counseling situations. Listen to the… Continue Reading …

Legalism Is a Fear-Based Culture that Leads to a Complex Life

Legalism is a complicated subject. It stirs emotive responses from many Christians. If you’re in it, it’s hard to get out. If you did come out of it, it’s easy to overreact and go to some dangerous places. In this two-part series, I’m going to… Continue Reading …

Proactive Plan For Leadership Development In the Church

One of the most challenging situations in my counseling ministry is trying to place counselees in a long-term, “sanctification context” in their local churches where they may receive ongoing care from competent disciple-makers. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on iTunes, Google Play, SoundCloud,… Continue Reading …

Christian Legalism: People-Pleasing and Performance Traps

Christian Legalism, People-Pleasing and Performance Traps

Legalism is the bane of religion. It’s the persistent nemesis in all of our hearts. Though we usually discuss legalism as it pertains to our salvation, I’m speaking more here of how it affects our sanctification. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on iTunes,… Continue Reading …