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What’s Happening When I Won’t Forgive Someone?

What's Happening When I Won’t Forgive Someone

Forgiveness is one of the most challenging concepts for the Christian to come to terms with, particularly when someone has hurt the believer. The victims of crimes suffer the most. I know that was true for Jesus: He suffered for my sins, making the call… Continue Reading …

How to Think about Losing a Family Member through Murder

How to Think About Losing a Family Member Through Murder

On April 18, 1997, I got the call that nobody ever wants to receive. My sister-in-law called to let me know that she killed my brother. I remember writing in my journal that it was a sunny, 67-degree day. It was a perfect day—until that… Continue Reading …

How God Delivered an Entrapped Soul from Christianity’s Baggage

How God Delivered an Entrapped Soul from Christianity's Baggage

There are instances when Christianity’s baggage can entrap a person, and they never realize it. They never connect a lack of consistent joy, constantly trying to control how people perceive them, and hiding longstanding flaws to the Christian life they live. They genuinely love God,… Continue Reading …

Learning How to Trust God with Your Communication Problems

Learning How to Trust God With Your Communication Problems

There is a problem trusting God when His ways seem foolish, and we have a well-worn habit of getting what we want through our self-reliant means. Of course, when we choose human wisdom and strength over God’s, it will have a debilitating effect on our… Continue Reading …

Thinking of Yourself as Victim Is One of the Worst Things You Can Do

Thinking of Yourself As Victim Is One of the Worst Things You Can Do001

Daniel Berger and I talked about the word victim and how many biblical counselors are abusing the term, which has led to insufficient care within the biblical counseling movement ranks. Daniel told me the word victim comes from the Latin root vicarious, which means taking… Continue Reading …

What Are Your Expectations and How Do They Manage You?

What Are Your Expectations and How Do They Manage You_

What do you expect from life? If you’re like me, you have many expectations, and some of them have not come to pass. To have expectations is to be Christlike. To have your expectations managing you is not like Christ. Your attitude about God, self,… Continue Reading …

Responding to Friends Who Do Things That Make You Uncomfortable

How to Respond to Friends Do Things That Make You Uncomfortable

When someone does something that you don’t like, you have several options from which to choose. You can consent to what they said or did and be like them. You could confront and rebuke them. Or you can try to ignore what just happened, which… Continue Reading …

When the Slave Battles His Master for Ultimate Control

When the Slave Battles His Master for Ultimate Control

Let’s talk about slavery. I’m not speaking about what happens around our world every day, or what went on in our country 150 years ago. I’m speaking to Christians who willingly came to Jesus and said, “I want to be your slave.” I’m talking about… Continue Reading …

The Man Who Destroyed Our Home Wants Forgiveness

Biff destroyed his marriage. Shortly after that, he experienced conviction from God for what he did. In response to the Lord’s maneuvering in his heart, Biff made an authentic confession to God and his wife. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on iTunes, Google… Continue Reading …

Mind Mapping a Marriage from Bad to Good

Our behaviors reveal our hearts. If you get a discerning handle on a person’s actions, you will find clues to what may be going on in their heart. This kind of careful consideration of others will position you to be a “more effective Jesus” to… Continue Reading …