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How To Train Your Flea, Or How To Control Others

How To Train Your Flea, Or How To Control Others

Have you ever trained a flea? It’s a simple process. You place a flea or a flock of fleas (not sure if flock is the right word) in a Mason jar and tighten the lid. Next, you leave the flea(s) in the jar for three… Continue Reading …

What Are You To Do When God Does Not Respond Like You Hoped?

What Are You to Do When God Does Not Respond Like You Hoped

Humans were created for worship; it’s part of our ontology—the nature of our being—as determined by our Creator. You will worship something. If you worship the living God in spirit and truth, you will be transformed into His likeness; if you worship any version of… Continue Reading …

Thinking of Yourself as Victim Is One of the Worst Things You Can Do

Thinking of Yourself As Victim Is One of the Worst Things You Can Do001

Daniel Berger and I talked about the word victim and how many biblical counselors are abusing the term, which has led to insufficient care within the biblical counseling movement ranks. Daniel told me the word victim comes from the Latin root vicarious, which means taking… Continue Reading …

God Is Not on Your Side: You’re on His Side, or You’re Not

God Is Not On Your Side_ You're On His Side, or You're Not

Imperfect people steward neither blessings nor trials well. As Martin Luther said, we are curved inward on ourselves, meaning that self-interest rather than God’s glory or others’ good is what generally rules us, causing us to respond poorly to virtually everything that happens to us.… Continue Reading …

How To Know If Your Victimhood Has Become Your Identity

How to Know If Your Victimhood Has Become Your Identity

Being a victim of anything is one of the most challenging circumstances for a hurting soul to negotiate. The journey out of the effects of victimization is long. Some contours will challenge the victim to the broadest expanse of their soul. Their ultimate goal is… Continue Reading …

When the Abuse You See Clouds Biblical Interpretations

When the Abuse You See Clouds Biblical Interpretations

When abuse forms the lens through how you view what is happening in your life or among friends, it may discolor how you interpret and react to those experiences. I’m not suggesting that bad things are not happening to you or your friends, but I… Continue Reading …

Abuse Is Not the Best Way To Talk about the Problem with Abuse

Abuse Is Not the Best Way to Talk about the Problem With Abuse

Whenever we bring words, language, and constructs from the culture and wedge them into a biblical paradigm, things become awkward, and emotions tend to erupt. This problem is what has happened with the word abuse. We grabbed it from the world, with all its accompanying… Continue Reading …

The Abuse of Abuse Is Complicating Legitimate Abuse

The Abuse of Abuse Is Complicating Legitimate Abuse

The word abuse has become a catchall phrase with too many Christians. It’s a construct that is full of all sorts of things, and it’s now in danger of losing its worth. When you dilute a subject to include virtually anything, the original meaning is… Continue Reading …

8 Signs of Spiritual Abuse To See If It’s Happening to You

8 Signs of Spiritual Abuse to See If It's Happening to You

Supporting Member – Can you give some clear examples of signs of how a pastor or church leader is crossing the line from being a shepherd to a spiritual abuser? It would be helpful to know when to support a pastor when he is genuinely… Continue Reading …

Pick an Enemy! Now, Will You Do What Jesus Said: Love Them?

Pick an Enemy! Now, Will You Do What Jesus Said_ Love Them_

Roll through your mental index, identifying the kind of person or demographic you do not prefer, like, or try to avoid? Perhaps it’s something your spouse, child, parent, or church member does. Maybe it’s that Christian hypocrite who needs to get a life or someone… Continue Reading …