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A Tempting Facade for Defense That Further Enslaves the Abused

A Tempting Facade for Defense that Further Enslaves the Abused

Counseling abuse situations is challenging. The temptations to succumb to bad strategies are numerous. One of those is teaching the abused to fake strength to prove to their abuser that gaslighting and manipulation have no power. It’s an attractive facade of a defense that further… Continue Reading …

When the Abuse You See Clouds Biblical Interpretations

When the Abuse You See Clouds Biblical Interpretations

When abuse forms the lens through how you view what is happening in your life or among friends, it may discolor how you interpret and react to those experiences. I’m not suggesting that bad things are not happening to you or your friends, but I… Continue Reading …

Abuse Is Not the Best Way to Talk about the Problem with Abuse

Abuse Is Not the Best Way to Talk about the Problem With Abuse

Whenever we bring words, language, and constructs from the culture and wedge them into a biblical paradigm, things become awkward, and emotions tend to erupt. This problem is what has happened with the word abuse. We grabbed it from the world, with all its accompanying… Continue Reading …

The Abuse of Abuse Is Complicating Legitimate Abuse

The Abuse of Abuse Is Complicating Legitimate Abuse

The word abuse has become a catchall phrase with too many Christians. It’s a construct that is full of all sorts of things, and it’s now in danger of losing its worth. When you dilute a subject to include virtually anything, the original meaning is… Continue Reading …

8 Signs of Spiritual Abuse to See If It’s Happening to You

8 Signs of Spiritual Abuse to See If It's Happening to You

Supporting Member – Can you give some clear examples of signs of how a pastor or church leader is crossing the line from being a shepherd to a spiritual abuser? It would be helpful to know when to support a pastor when he is genuinely… Continue Reading …

Four Things to Know When Working through Abuse

Four Things to Know When Working Through Abuse

Abuse is a broad category. In today’s culture, it may include micro-aggressions, which can be anything from subtle to intentional slights toward another person. On the other end of the abuse spectrum are some of the most heinous events that can happen to a human being.… Continue Reading …

Ep. 242 Rick Answers Questions about Abuse and More

Ep. 242 Rick Answers Questions about Abuse and More

Show’s Main Idea – Rick is playing catch-up in this podcast as he answers questions from our community, responds to accusations about him being an idolater, and gives practical advice on how to initially respond to someone asking for help because they are in an… Continue Reading …

How Do You Respond When Abuse and Submission Collide?

How Do You Respond When Abuse and Submission Collide_

I will never forget the first time that I confronted a verbally abusive husband during a counseling session. As with many authoritarian husbands, this particular man declared his harsh treatment of his wife to be his biblical duty—a perceived badge of honor. As with far… Continue Reading …

Ep. 213 Rick Answers Questions On Abuse, Church, Forgiveness & More

Rick Answers Your Questions

Shows Main Idea – Rick responds to questions that some people sent him. They are on abuse, parenting, divorce, bad churches, bad word choices, forgiveness, and personal conviction. If you would like to discuss any of these with him or if you have other questions,… Continue Reading …

Ep. 187 Is Depression a Sin When Others Abuse You?

Shows Main Idea – The question that I’m posing in the title of this podcast has several layers, and it’s vital that you move slowly and think deeply about my response to this common struggle. If you understand this problem biblically, it will serve you… Continue Reading …