Get Ready – For Your Best Marriage Now – This new book from Rick Thomas will be available March 2019. The older digital version is no longer available. “Get Ready” will be in paperback. Rick also added several more chapters to this version.
If you are thinking about dating, courtship, or getting married, this could be the most important book you’ll ever read. I realize what I just wrote may come across as an overstatement or hyperbolic marketing, but it is not. I have been in the counseling “business” for many years, and the most common situation I have counseled are marriages in trouble. These troubled marriages did not just happen. The problems in any marriage are rooted in the two people who are married before they were married.
It’s a Workbook
This book is the culmination of thousands of hours of counseling with marriages that came to me because they either did not know the content of this book, did not know how to apply it, or refused to use what they knew. All of their marriages were in trouble, and they hoped to reverse years of poor decision-making and relational conflict.
What you are about to read has been field tested. It will work for you in proportion to your willingness to take it to heart while practically applying it to your life and relationship. I recommend that you read this book slowly, reflectively, prayerfully, and conversationally. You may want to read it more than once. This book is not meant to be read and shelved. It is a reusable tool that will never wear out no matter how many times you use it. Do not be afraid: use it often.
At the end of each chapter, I have “call to action” opportunities that are meant to probe your thought life as well as your practical experience. Ask the Spirit of God to open your eyes to see any hidden things. Ask Him to give you the courage to change what needs changing, no matter how hard it feels at the moment. And above all else, expect God’s favor on your life as you humbly submit to His guidance while you move through this resource.
If You Are Married
This book is for you, too. Perhaps your marriage has hit the rocks. After years of muddling through, you feel as though you’ve lost all hope. Your hope is not lost. I wrote this book for people who want a great marriage. The content applies (1) to those who have yet to tie the knot, (2) to those who have tied the knot, and (3) to those who have untied the knot.
Whether pre-married, married, or post-married, the content of this book is about how to have a God-glorifying and mutually enjoyable marriage. If that is what you want, this is what you need. Don’t be discouraged; be hopeful. God is a Healer of the hurting. If you are one of the hurting ones because your marriage went to the wrong place, I appeal to you to set aside some time to read this resource.
Find a friend to walk with you through it. Ask the Father to restore the brokenness. Expect His mercy and favor. I do not know if the Lord can transform your marriage, but I do know He can make your life better than what it is. The content in this book can assist you in that beautiful cause.