Here is a flattened out and slightly edited email from the wife:
My husband moved out a while ago and into the home of another woman that he had been “dating” behind my back. He has filed for divorce because I told him I would not agree to a dissolution of our marriage. It has been a multi-decade battle for us and a long, long story.
I hung on through the years always trying to help him (or so I thought). Now we’re at the end and I don’t think I truly trusted Christ until he left me. Please pray for us. Thank you for your ministry that always directs us back to the sufficiency of Christ.
Caveat – I don’t want you to spend too much time on point #1 below, but mostly to think of it as a cautionary warning for others who are not yet where you are. Your story, as horrible as it is, should be a sober call to many other marriages that are not properly modeling Christ and His church (Ephesians 5:32).
As for you, if you spend too much time thinking about what he has done wrong it could prove to be soul-damaging, while casting you into a ditch of despair (Psalm 42:5). Points 2-8 is where I’d recommend you spend your time.
1 – Hypocrisy: “Everybody likes ‘Raymond’ but he was never real.”
2 – Attitude: “I struggle daily with having the right attitude.”
3 – Sovereignty: The “why” question. “I never thought I’d be in this place.”
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4 – Awareness: “I have now come to the place of seeing my sin in the marriage.”
5 – Children: “My child still loves him; she does not know what he has done.”
6 – Prayers: “I want to rain fire and brimstone down on them.”
7 – Care: “I need a lot of help.”
8 – Expect: “The good Lord will take care of you.”