Shows Main Idea – Dave Furman (ThM, Dallas Theological Seminary) serves as the senior pastor of Redeemer Church of Dubai in the United Arab Emirates, which he planted in 2010. Dave and his wife, Gloria, have four children. He is the author of, Being There: How To Love Those Who Are Hurting.
Often, the people who love the hurting also struggle in their unique ways. They tend to suffer in silence and without much support from others.
Writing from the unique perspective of one who needs extra help on a daily basis, Dave Furman offers insight into the support, encouragement, and wisdom that people need when helping others.
Furman draws on his life experiences, examples from the Bible, and wisdom from Christians throughout history to address the heart and ministry of those who are called to serve others.
Deeply personal and powerfully pastoral, this book points readers to the strength that only God can provide as they love those who are hurting. Gloria Furman, the author’s wife, wrote the Afterword.
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- The Anniversary of the Worst Day of My Life
- God Is Incrementally Putting You To Death
- Beyond Your Ability? God Has You Right Where He Wants You
Dave Furman Questions
- Describe your disease: what is the name of it? When did it begin? What does it do to you?
- What were some practical things you did that helped you stop playing the “if only game?”
- If only my arms weren’t hurting.
- If only I were not struggling this way.
- Your book is primarily for those who know the sufferer—the caregivers who suffer in silence. What would you say to those who do not know what to do or say to a person suffering?
- Why is it important for those who are close to the sufferer to grieve their loss—the things they lost because of the other person’s suffering?
- Why is the first answer in learning how to care for others starts with the caregiver’s relationship with Christ?
- What are some practical ways the caregiver can strengthen his/her relationship with Christ?
- Talk about the value of saying nothing. I’m referring, of course, to the title of the book, and your thoughts about Job’s friends not saying anything and how not saying anything can be helpful.
- Where does laughter fit into the relationship of the sufferer and the caregiver? Why is it significant?
- How do you respond to the “cures” you receive from caring friends? What are some helpful things people say that does encourage you?
- How do you guard against your suffering becoming your identity? How can a person care for you but yet not make your suffering the center of how you relate to each other?