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Should a wife do what she can to be attractive, spiritually and physically?
Caveat: The problem with trying to “be attractive” is that it is a subjective pursuit that usually has unhelpful (even unbiblical) cultural influences.
The better question is whether she should take care of herself as a steward of the grace of God given to her.
Men and women should work hard to take care of their bodies and souls.
You don’t want to overvalue or misunderstand beauty because of cultural influences, and you don’t want to under-appreciate who you are and how God made you. —Rick Thomas
The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control (1 Corinthians 7:3-5).
Some people have twisted and taught 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 to mean that a wife’s body belongs to her husband, and he can use it as he sees fit for self-centered purposes. Thus, if he wants her to be sexy, she must work to give him what he wants.
There are two sides here:
Some people assert that a man cannot control his urges, which levels part of the blame for his sexual appetite on his wife’s lack of fulfilling it. (cf. Ecclesiastes 1:8)
But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death (James 1:14-15).
The beauty and expectation of biblical intimacy is the spiritual, physical reciprocation between a husband and wife.
If the husband has bought into or teaches a defiled understanding of intimacy, you have to find help to sort things out.
Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted. Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ (Galatians 6:1-2).
Many (if not most) men have never received training on biblical intimacy for couples. They did not come from reciprocating, romantic homes where they observed their parents love each other the right way.
The tutors for most of today’s kids are social media—peer-to-peer indoctrination on all things sex.
If your husband has warped views and practices about sex and sexuality, guard your heart against looking down on him. You must not complicate a caught person by reacting sinfully to him.
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