Shows Main Idea – How do you respond when a family member does not accept you? Family conflict is commonplace because we live in a fallen world. Here are thirteen things you can practically apply to any of your struggling relationships, though I’m speaking specifically about in-laws.
Don’t gossip about or slander them to other relatives (or to anyone else) (Ephesians 4:29).
Bring in someone from your church that you can talk to about this for an indefinite amount of time (Proverbs 24:6).
Guard your heart, especially around Christmas and other big days like your children’s birthdays. You and your children will probably be slighted, while other family members receive preferential treatment (Psalm 27:10).
You will have to put this under the “despised and rejected by men” category. You can honor Jesus by putting Him on display in your family (Isaiah 53:3; 1 Corinthians 10:31).
Make sure you are mortifying “what you want” v. “what you are going to get” from your family (Romans 8:13).
Honor your in-laws, even when they are not honorable (Romans 12:10).
The most important thing: Let God take care of this. You live for Jesus no matter what. If you do this, then you’ll benefit from God’s favor in your life (James 4:6), a by-product of your humility. God’s favor is way more important than your in-law’s favor (1 Peter 2:18-25).
Pray, asking the Father to turn the hearts of your in-laws (Proverbs 21:1).
Rick Thomas leads a training network for Christians to assist them in becoming more effective soul care providers. RickThomas.Net reaches people around the world through consulting, training, podcasting, writing, counseling, and speaking.
In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology, and in 1991 he received a BS in Education. In 1993 he was ordained into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master’s University in Santa Clarita, CA. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).