Shows Main Idea – There are always two guilty people in any relationship problem. One could be “more guilty” than the other, but neither of them operated flawlessly during their relationship. If you’re not honest about what happened between them, you will not have a chance for proper reconciliation.
Overreacting – The person hears a one-sided story and immerses themselves inside the story without taking a step back to look inside the problems from a macro perspective, which positions them to bring more thoughtful help.
Discernment – We may not have the discernment to sniff out the truth when two people are saying different things about what happened.
Un-Certified – Another complication is that anyone who perseveres through a biblical counseling curriculum receives certification, which most people upload as competent to counsel complex cases, which is not accurate.
Courage – This discipler is afraid to say what they are thinking. Rather than leading the hurting soul, they succumb to the story, even if it does not square with the truth of God’s Word.
Regardless of the need of the person in front of you, are you more apt to show empathy or sympathy? Explain your answer.
Describe when you heard one side of the story and reacted poorly, as you discovered after learning the rest of the matter. What correctives have you put into place to keep from doing this again?
Do you consider yourself a counselor with the competence to walk a couple through an abusive situation? If so, do you have a history of doing this? Do others affirm that God has given you this skillset?
What fears, worries, and anxieties come to mind when thinking about counseling these complex cases? If these things do come to mind, what does it say about your level of gifting?
Do you believe you have the presence of skill needed to help these complex cases but not the perfection of it yet? If so, what is your plan to grow into the fullest measure of your gifting?