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I’m not talking about people who were sexually abused or types of physical harm. We all should be afraid of certain people and never go around them. I’m speaking of the “run-of-the-mill” kind of insecurity like shyness, stage fright, “fear of pastor syndrome,” and other forms of social connection where a person is in bondage.
I’m going to use the word insecurity because of its extensive use and universal understanding. And you would define it this way:
The way you begin tackling this problem is by owning it rather than making excuses for why you are this way, e.g., he’s intimidating or God made me shy. Making excuses will keep you in bondage.
Two competing verses are vying for control of the insecure person’s soul:
The most succinct way to think about this problem is to say, “There is only one opinion that matters and I’m going to submit to that one, which is God’s opinion of me.”
This concept could be a problem if you’re not secure about God’s opinion of you. E.g., adults who had awful experiences with their dads will struggle with how they relate to God the Father. Or, people who have never had good relationship models may struggle with their relationship with the Lord.
How to Overcome the Fear of Others
All of these issues motivate a person to be strong, not weak, because they don’t want to be exposed, found out, or hurt again. They would rather live a self-reliant life that negates the power of God in their life.
Rick Thomas leads a training network for Christians to assist them in becoming more effective soul care providers. RickThomas.Net reaches people around the world through consulting, training, podcasting, writing, counseling, and speaking.
In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology, and in 1991 he received a BS in Education. In 1993 he was ordained into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master’s University in Santa Clarita, CA. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).