In the beginning, the male was Adam, and the higher authority was God. The Father created Adam in His image, and Adam submitted to Him. The Father provided Adam a loving and safe environment for him to flourish.
Then the Father created Eve, and she submitted to Adam. This “creation submission construct” set the hierarchy for human relationships. And it was Adam’s job to do for his wife what the Lord was doing for him–to provide a loving and safe environment for her to flourish.
Though God did many other things for Adam, I think you will find that all of those things were within these two parameters: (1) His great love for Adam and (2) His protective care of Adam. Those are the two primary things that all of us need to flourish well in God’s world.
Adam and Eve were different, but the things they wanted were the same: (1) to be loved and (2) protected. While Adam was made by God and instinctively drawn to God, Eve came out of the man and was naturally drawn to him (Genesis 2:18-25).
Now it was Adam’s turn to do for Eve what God did for him: to love and protect his bride. He had a responsibility to image his Creator in a similar way in which he had experienced Him.
To be loved and to be protected are the two conditions that will motivate any wife to submit to her husband. If you do not believe this, I appeal to you to talk to your wife about what I have written here. Ask her the importance of these two things from you to her. Your wife is being asked to do something rather profound: to give up her individual life to blend into you and to follow you for the rest of her life.
Key Idea – The picture a child’s father presents is the earliest ideas that the child will have of God the Father.
If a father is not submitting to God, as evidenced by providing protective care and affectionate love for his children, they will have a hard time submitting to God or relating to others well.
Preschoolers make a number of assumptions about words and their meaning as they acquire language, one of the most important of which is what psychologist Ellen Markman calls the principle of mutual exclusivity. Simply put, this means that small children have difficulty believing that any one object can have two different names.
The natural assumption of children, Markman argues, is that if an object or a person is given a second label, then that label must refer to some secondary property or attribute of that object. You can see how useful the assumption is to a child faced with the extraordinary task of assigning a word to everything in the world.
A child who learns the word elephant knows, with absolute certainty, that it is something different from a dog. Each new word makes the child’s knowledge more precise. Without mutual exclusivity, by contrast, if a child thought that elephants could simply be another label for dog, then each new word would make the world seem more complicated. – Malcolm Gladwell, from The Tipping Point
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Rick Thomas leads a training network for Christians to assist them in becoming more effective soul care providers. RickThomas.Net reaches people around the world through consulting, training, podcasting, writing, counseling, and speaking.
In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology, and in 1991 he received a BS in Education. In 1993 he was ordained into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master’s University in Santa Clarita, CA. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).