Shows Main Idea – Understanding someone is more in-depth than understanding what is happening to a person. Too often, hurt people only want someone to understand them so that they feel affirmation and validation. This critical need is one of six things that make up… Continue Reading …

Shows Main Idea – I received this email from a hurting wife who said, “My husband is abusive. He followed you and sent so many articles from you to me, showing how I needed to change. I know you don’t like the word abuse, so… Continue Reading …

Shows Main Idea – A friend asked me for advice on helping someone who has gone through some deep hurts in her life. The horrific events were patterns, not an isolated episode. When assisting a hurting person, you must marshall many biblical helpers because of… Continue Reading …

Shows Main Idea – Lucia and I were meeting with a couple, and the conversation centered on the idea of confession. I shared some things with them to help as they continue to grow in loving each other well. At one point, the wife said… Continue Reading …

Shows Main Idea – There are always two guilty people in any relationship problem. One could be “more guilty” than the other, but neither of them operated flawlessly during their relationship. If you’re not honest about what happened between them, you will not have a chance… Continue Reading …

Shows Main Idea – How would you counsel a lady with a passive husband, who shows her a lack of interest? It has been going on for decades. She presents her case to you, and it’s your opportunity to walk her through her disappointment. This… Continue Reading …

Shows Main Idea – To date or not to date has opinions all over our church and family maps. Some perspectives are direct and firm. Others are harsh and lack discretion. Then there are the flexibly moderate who know that each family and teenager is… Continue Reading …

Shows Main Idea – Forgiveness is for the offender’s benefit and the offended. Frequently, we have a narrow view of forgiveness, as though it is only about the transgressor. Though the intent of forgiveness does not mean both parties will experience this grace gift. Minimally,… Continue Reading …