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A Unique Wife Helping a Unique Man Change Is the Best

A Unique Wife Helping a Unique Man Change Is the Best

No book can help your unique husband to become a better husband like you can. Sure, there are a zillion books, and we have the Bible, too. But when it comes to a wife’s role in helping her husband mature in Christ, she is his… Continue Reading …

The Internet Is the New Frontier for Angry People to Hang Out

The Internet Is the New Frontier for Angry People Hang Out

The Internet is an angry place. It’s one of the sadder revelations about the Internet period in church history to see how it has become a context to put our sinful hearts on full display before the world. Revealing my wicked heart is not a… Continue Reading …

Thinking of Yourself as Victim Is One of the Worst Things You Can Do

Thinking of Yourself As Victim Is One of the Worst Things You Can Do001

Daniel Berger and I talked about the word victim and how many biblical counselors are abusing the term, which has led to insufficient care within the biblical counseling movement ranks. Daniel told me the word victim comes from the Latin root vicarious, which means taking… Continue Reading …

God Is Not on Your Side: You’re on His Side, or You’re Not

God Is Not On Your Side_ You're On His Side, or You're Not

Imperfect people steward neither blessings nor trials well. As Martin Luther said, we are curved inward on ourselves, meaning that self-interest rather than God’s glory or others’ good is what generally rules us, causing us to respond poorly to virtually everything that happens to us.… Continue Reading …

Every Person Who Withholds the Truth Is Not Lying

Every Person Who Withholds the Truth Is Not Lying

A counseling office is a place for trust, truth, and honesty, but sometimes getting to this place is not straightforward. For example, a counselee may withhold the truth about themselves because they are not confident the counselor is trustworthy. They are vetting the counselor. Every… Continue Reading …

Ep. 258 Suffering and Leadership, the Gifts You Need

Ep. 258 Suffering and Leadership, the Gifts You Need

Have you ever thought about how suffering is a leadership gift? Meaning, if you suffer without leading yourself through it, you may not suffer well. When a person is suffering, they must know how to lead themselves through it or become victims of their suffering.… Continue Reading …

How to Know If Your Victimhood Has Become Your Identity

How to Know If Your Victimhood Has Become Your Identity

Being a victim of anything is one of the most challenging circumstances for a hurting soul to negotiate. The journey out of the effects of victimization is long. Some contours will challenge the victim to the broadest expanse of their soul. Their ultimate goal is… Continue Reading …

How to Help People with Different Opinions When Both Are Right

Cornelius Van Til said there are no neutral facts. Meaning, two people can look at the same thing and come away with differing perspectives, and both of them are right. For example, a married couple can talk about the same event in different ways, and… Continue Reading …

Ep. 257 Should a Pastor Lead a Para-Ministry Organization?

Ep. 257 Should a Pastor Lead a Para-Ministry Organization_

Shows Main Idea – The title of this podcast is full of subjectivity. There are no scriptures that will answer the question in the way that we like the Bible to speak to our most pressing queries. It does not have to be wrong for… Continue Reading …

The Need to Know How Choices to Feel Better Are Addictive

The Need to Know How Choices to Feel Better Are Addictive

Every family in America has experienced the adverse impact of sexual-related issues. The Internet, sexual abuse, fornication, adultery, and our bent toward immodest clothes, makeup, and presenting ourselves a certain way are part of the word cloud that describes this sexual pandemic. What may surprise… Continue Reading …