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You Must Know This Before You Counsel Anyone

You Must Know This Before You Counsel a Teen

Sometimes stereotypical counseling can get in the way of what you want to do with an individual, especially when the counselee has a preconceived, pessimistic instinct about where you want to go with him. You’ll see this with some teenagers, for example, because they sense… Continue Reading …

What Qualities Do You Look for in a Pastor?

What Qualities Do You Look for in a Pastor

One of the most important questions you’ll ask when looking for a new church is whether the pastor is leading the local church. What best describes your pastor? How does he affect others? Can he care for your soul? Finding a pastor is a tedious… Continue Reading …

How the Ongoing Sin of Others Impacts Your Health

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The interplay between our physical and spiritual selves does not get enough talk time within the Christian community, especially how a conflict between two people can lead to diminishing health. I have counseled some couples with declining health problems that parallel the acrimonious relationships with… Continue Reading …

Ep. 356 Response to The Rise and Fall of Mars Hill, Episode 4

Ep. 356 Response to The Rise and Fall of Mars Hill, Episode 4

Shows Main Idea – This review is of episode four in the Christianity Today (CT) series, The Rise and Fall of Mars Hill. CT warns the listeners that you may want to prescreen this episode due to the sexual nature and language. I concur. It… Continue Reading …

When the Gospel Becomes the New Legalism

When the Gospel Becomes a New Form of Legalism

The word gospel has been the most popular word in evangelicalism for many years. You can’t go wrong with the gospel. Or can you? Is it possible for God’s creation to take a good thing like the gospel and twist it into something not right?… Continue Reading …

Why Can’t I Have My Life the Way I Want It, on My Terms?

Why Can't I Have My Life the Way I Want It, on My Terms

Every person has an idea of the kind of life they want. There is nothing wrong with thinking about your life while planning for a preferred outcome. But because of our universal fallenness, things do not always work out the way we hoped. How we… Continue Reading …

I Met a Christian Who Refuses to Walk Away from His Sin

I Met a Christian Who Refuses to Walk Away From His Sin

Can a Christian walk away from God? To help work through this question, we must recognize that Christianity is not neat, and sin has never been respectful of our preferred categories. The Hebrew writer is suggesting there can be this kind of Christian—a believer who… Continue Reading …

Here Are Rick’s Counseling Notes with a Counselee on Guilt and Fear

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These are the actual counseling notes from a friend that I met with for counseling. She permitted me to share them, which I altered slightly and flattened out for public distribution. Counseling notes miss a lot of data. While they cover the breadth of one… Continue Reading …

Why the Term Emotional Abuse Is Unhelpful and Misleading

Why the Term Emotional Abuse Is Unhelpful and Misleading

Emotional abuse is real and painful. If ongoing, it can have a detrimental effect on your body and soul. Understanding emotional trauma biblically is vital, which is why the term “emotional abuse” is misleading, unhelpful, and sub-biblical. The Bible has a better way of thinking… Continue Reading …

What’s Happening When I Won’t Forgive Someone?

What's Happening When I Won’t Forgive Someone

Forgiveness is one of the most challenging concepts for the Christian to come to terms with, particularly when someone has hurt the believer. The victims of crimes suffer the most. I know that was true for Jesus: He suffered for my sins, making the call… Continue Reading …