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Eight Ways to Think About Your Past

In the counseling world, there is a lot made of a person’s past. Thinking about your past narrative can be a good thing. Your history is important because God was in your past. (cf. Jeremiah 1:5; Ephesians 1:3-11). Listen to the podcast You may want… Continue Reading …

How to Turn Your Arguments Into Redemptive Communication

Couples experiencing marriage difficulty often cite poor communication as the issue. Despite a desire for change, old patterns of interactions reveal themselves, especially in the heat of conflict. Hope for change only occurs when this pattern changes. In This Series How Your Thoughts Reveal Your… Continue Reading …

Angry People Have Too Many Needs

If you are angry with someone, you will fracture that relationship. The angry heart is a desiring heart; the person is choosing anger as a manipulative measure to get what he wants. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on iTunes, Google Play, SoundCloud, TuneIn,… Continue Reading …

When Obedience Collides With My Emotions

When your heart is not into being obedient, you need to be obedient anyway to get your heart in the right place. Sometimes obedience is a great way to change what’s going on inside of you. Listen to the podcast You may want to read:… Continue Reading …

How to Rebuke Ann Voskamp and Other People Not Like You

I wrote an article about Ann Voskamp. The purpose was to discuss a Christian’s attitude before rebuking someone. Specifically, I was interacting with the “rebuker’s thoughts” about Ann before they confront her publicly about her beliefs and teachings. Listen to the podcast The article set… Continue Reading …

Marriage Devotion Day 26 – Crucible of Suffering: When Things Do Not Change

Day 26 - Crucible of Suffering_ When Things Do Not Change

Many times, in suffering, it’s easy to focus on the wrong question. You can be more concerned about whether God is safe than whether He is good. Sometimes your genuine desire and expectation for self-protection can outweigh the Lord’s good work in your life (Romans… Continue Reading …

Twenty Questions When You’re Hurt By Your Church

We all say there are no perfect churches. It sounds good, and it is a true statement, but if your local church hurts you, what do you do? That’s when your cliche must be more than that; it must be a life transforming worldview. Listen… Continue Reading …

When Desires for Love and Respect Destroy Your Marriage

There is a common belief within the Christian community that we have God-given desires like love and respect that are good but can morph into evil desires from our selfish hearts. Is this accurate? Should the statement be unchallenged? You may want to read: You… Continue Reading …

Three Mind Maps to Move You from Despair to Joy

In my last article, I discussed how a proper understanding of our flesh-Spirit conflict and our new identity in Christ is necessary to maintain a joyful perseverance in life. In this article, I will address how these truths ministered to Mary–the fictional single mom briefly… Continue Reading …

Ep. 61 Ten Great Ideas When Caring for Couples

Shows Main Idea – What are some helpful ideas when counseling couples together? I’m not looking for content like how to counsel anger or unforgiveness, but I’d like to know some of the methods you use or think about when you meet with couples. This… Continue Reading …