Most of the couples I see for marriage counseling had consensual sex before they were married. And though their pre-marriage fornication does not represent all of their problems, you can typically discern a constellation of sinful patterns that are associated with and flows out of their unresolved and undiscussed infidelity.
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What you are observing in your partner’s life is a precursor to how the rest of your life will look—only it will be exponentially better or worse.
- If he (or she) is walking in the Spirit, his walk will be exponentially better.
- If he is walking in the flesh, it will be exponentially worse.
Do not think you are the exception to this rule. If what you are observing in your partner is unclear to you, seek wise counsel to walk you through your relationship. Your “counsel seeking” should be more than checking the box; it must be a God-centered, divine appointment to learn, change, and grow.
The side effects of letting sin have its way with you are a hardened conscience and dysfunctional relationships. Your conscience is God’s kindness to you to let you know your need to respond to Him. If you choose not to respond to sin biblically, the hardening process will eventually stifle your joy and damage your relationships.
Time to Reflect
- Have you had sex before marriage?
- What are you doing to stay morally pure?
- Will you confide in a trusted and biblical mentor about your plans to stay pure?