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Understanding Someone Is Hard Work, But the Only Way To Build Well

Understanding Someone Is Hard Work, But the Only Way to Build Well

Understanding the other person in any relationship is foundational to building a life with them. If you don’t know them at a soul level, all your efforts to connect in an in-depth way will fall flat. You will end up as acquaintances, perhaps business partners,… Continue Reading …

How To Tell If a Person in Trouble Is Genuine about Wanting Help

How to Tell If a Person In Trouble Is Genuine about Wanting Help

You have a friend in trouble. They appear to be at the end of themselves, but you’re not sure. You’re not uncharitably judging them, but you know that the only way they can experience restoration from God and satisfaction in Him is by being at… Continue Reading …

Do You Know How To Use the Unwanted Sin in Your Life Sinlessly?

Do You Know How to Use the Unwanted Sin In Your Life Sinlessly?

Are you able to use sin sinlessly? I am asking how do you respond to the inevitableness of sin in your life, whether it is yours or someone else’s? When wickedness comes, it will drive us in one of two directions. We will either fixate… Continue Reading …

The Most Important Things You’ll Ever Learn To Change

The Most Important Things You'll Ever Learn To Change

One of the more surprising things I have learned from a career in counseling is that the average Christian does not know how to change. The Bible’s word for change is repentance. Knowing how to do it is the most important thing you will ever… Continue Reading …

Five Helpful Marks To See If Someone Has Changed

Five Helpful Marks To See If Someone Has Changed

What is the most trustworthy indicator of a person who has authentically changed? How can you know—as much as one can understand? Paul gives us our answers, but first, let me tell you a story. You know who they are: it’s the life and times… Continue Reading …

Learning How To Encourage Disappointing People To Change

Learning How to Encourage Disappointing People to Change

If a family member or friend does not meet your expectations, what is your primary way of motivating them to change? Do you encourage them toward a better way of living, or do you use other methods like criticism, nagging, and condemnation that tempts them… Continue Reading …

Are You Attractive? A Way To Know Is If Sinners Hang with You

Are You Attractive_ A Way to Know Is If Sinners Hang With You

Are you an attractive person? I’m not speaking of cultural attractiveness. The peak of attractiveness has a biblical look to it. Jesus was a holy and righteous man, and non-religious people were comfortable hanging with Him. That’s the picture of attractiveness that I’m going for… Continue Reading …

How To Think about a God Who Permits Sin in Your Life

How to Think About a God Who Permits Sin In Your Life

How many ways are available from the Lord to help you grow up in Christ? Most folks would say things like the Bible, prayer, church, and close friends. They are correct. Those are four essential means of grace for maturing in Christlikeness. Here’s one more.… Continue Reading …

You Need To Budget the Expectation of Sin into Your Life

You Need to Budget the Expectation of Sin Into Your Life

One of the most natural things you will ever do is respond sinfully to the sin of another person. When you do this, it reveals a lot about how you think about yourself, the other person, and the Lord. Part of this problem is we… Continue Reading …

Should People You Know Confess Their Sins to You?

Should People You Know Confess Their Sins to You?

My friend has a hidden, secret sin, which she is afraid to confess to me. I see her in bondage to what she has done and was wondering if it is right or would it be helpful if she confessed her sin to me. What… Continue Reading …