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The Problem with Expecting Someone to Change on Your Timetable

The Problem with Expecting Someone to Change on Your Timetable

In any discipleship situation, the discipler’s theology needs to inform the discipleship process. If not, the temptation of the discipler can cause the discipler to lose hope and even sin during the process. Let me share with you a case study to make this point.… Continue Reading …

Did You Know There Is a Better Way to Do Counseling?

Did you know this is a better way to do counseling_

Sometimes when some people hear the words “biblical counseling,” they think about a two-tier system within Christianity: those who can counsel and those who cannot. Suppose biblical counseling means that to you. Perhaps it would be wise to change your thinking. God has given every… Continue Reading …

A Tempting Facade for Defense That Further Enslaves the Abused

A Tempting Facade for Defense that Further Enslaves the Abused

Counseling abuse situations is challenging. The temptations to succumb to bad strategies are numerous. One of those is teaching the abused to fake strength to prove to their abuser that gaslighting and manipulation have no power. It’s an attractive facade of a defense that further… Continue Reading …

To Have Hope But Things Never Change May Lead to Despair

When Hope Drives You Insane

Some folks have hope, but their situation never changes. They give up and become cynical because they won’t know a different kind of future. Then some have hope that keeps them going regardless of unchanging circumstances. Their hope of the heart buoys them during the… Continue Reading …

He Is Risen Indeed. Now What Are We Supposed to Do?

He Is Risen Indeed. Now What Are We Supposed to Do

There is a heightened awareness of the gospel—the person and work of Jesus Christ—during Easter. Christians worldwide are celebrating what many consider to be the centerpiece of His work on earth. It is great news; He’s out of the grave! Now what? Christ risen indeed… Continue Reading …

Understanding Someone Is Hard Work, But the Only Way to Build Well

Understanding Someone Is Hard Work, But the Only Way to Build Well

Understanding the other person in any relationship is foundational to building a life with them. If you don’t know them at a soul level, all your efforts to connect in an in-depth way will fall flat. You will end up as acquaintances, perhaps business partners,… Continue Reading …

How to Train Your Flea, or How to Control Others

How To Train Your Flea, Or How To Control Others

Have you ever trained a flea? It’s a simple process. You place a flea or a flock of fleas (not sure if flock is the right word) in a Mason jar and tighten the lid. Next, you leave the flea(s) in the jar for three… Continue Reading …

Vital Teaching for Your Son Today So He’ll Be a Great Husband Later

Vital Teaching for Your Son Today So He'll Be a Great Husband Later

Statistically speaking, the chances of your son or daughter being married as adults are higher than their being single. This likelihood is not inside information but public knowledge. Boys like girls and girls like boys, and most boys and girls will tie the knot in… Continue Reading …

How to Tell If a Person in Trouble Is Genuine about Wanting Help

How to Tell If a Person In Trouble Is Genuine about Wanting Help

You have a friend in trouble. They appear to be at the end of themselves, but you’re not sure. You’re not uncharitably judging them, but you know that the only way they can experience restoration from God and satisfaction in Him is by being at… Continue Reading …

Learning How to Trust God with Your Communication Problems

Learning How to Trust God With Your Communication Problems

There is a problem trusting God when His ways seem foolish, and we have a well-worn habit of getting what we want through our self-reliant means. Of course, when we choose human wisdom and strength over God’s, it will have a debilitating effect on our… Continue Reading …