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How to Train Your Flea, or How to Control Others

How To Train Your Flea, Or How To Control Others

Have you ever trained a flea? It’s a simple process. You place a flea or a flock of fleas (not sure if flock is the right word) in a Mason jar and tighten the lid. Next, you leave the flea(s) in the jar for three… Continue Reading …

When You Make Your Child Work for Your Affection

When You Make Your Child Work for Your Affection

Children should not work for affection. Christian parents imitate God; one way to do this is by loving them just because they are their children. We know our children are not perfect, and there is a time to deal with their imperfections, but love should… Continue Reading …

The Sobering Reason It’s Hard to Overcome Insecurity

The Sobering Reason It’s Hard to Overcome Insecurity

It is typical for individuals to struggle with fear of man issues, which includes not knowing how to help others who are caught in this sin. This problem has a two-part solution: we must teach on the issue and create contexts so we can help… Continue Reading …

In Search of Significance: Carey’s Story

When you move the gospel from your functional center and replace it with other interests, even biblical things like “serving the Lord,” you will begin to grow in discontentment. And along with your restlessness will bring the temptation to satisfy your God-given longings through human-centered means.… Continue Reading …

The Story of the Boy Who Was Controlled By Others

I was counseling a teen who said to me, “Mr. Thomas, you don’t wear Walmart to high school.” It was great! In his simple way, he clearly articulated what every human on the planet feels. He’s insecure, and he’s willing to give up his life… Continue Reading …

You Have the Right to Be Comfortable in Your Own Skin

Imagine being untethered from the controlling opinions of others. Imagine not thinking about what other people think about you. Imagine being so connected to God that your daily experience is the enjoyment of His pleasure. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on iTunes, Google Play, SoundCloud,… Continue Reading …

Instructive Synonyms for People-Pleasing, Insecurity, or Fear of Man

Insecurity, peer-pressure, or fear of man has many names. You can examine yourself to see how much you struggle with insecurity. The labels below are synonyms or characteristics to what we call fear of man biblically. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on iTunes,… Continue Reading …

Breaking the Bondage of People-Pleasing

God will fully receive anyone who accepts what Christ has done on their behalf. It’s an incredible opportunity as Jesus takes all your sin and gives you His righteousness. But this gospel message is not practically transforming for everyone. Some Christians continue to live under… Continue Reading …

Mind Mapping a Lady with a Small God

The path to a “small god” begins in childhood. It leads to self-reliant living, which is always destructing to relationships. The way out of this type of dysfunction is possible with a little help from competent friends. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on… Continue Reading …

Fussy Parents Make Insecure Kids

Parents have the opportunity to export security or insecurity to their children. The type of behavior they exhibit to their children will have a generational impact on them, either for good or evil. Shaping influences are powerful. Though parenting does not save a child, the… Continue Reading …