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Here Are Rick’s Counseling Notes On Guilt and Fear with a Counselee

Here Are Rick's Counseling Notes On Guilt and Fear with a Counselee01

These are the actual counseling notes from a friend that I met with for counseling. She permitted me to share them, which I altered slightly and flattened out for public distribution. Counseling notes miss a lot of data. While they cover the breadth of one… Continue Reading …

Why the Term Emotional Abuse Is Unhelpful and Misleading

Why the Term Emotional Abuse Is Unhelpful and Misleading

Emotional abuse is real and painful. If ongoing, it can have a detrimental effect on your body and soul. Understanding emotional trauma biblically is vital, which is why the term “emotional abuse” is misleading, unhelpful, and sub-biblical. The Bible has a better way of thinking… Continue Reading …

The Problem with Expecting Someone to Change on Your Timetable

The Problem with Expecting Someone to Change on Your Timetable

In any discipleship situation, the discipler’s theology needs to inform the discipleship process. If not, the temptation of the discipler can cause the discipler to lose hope and even sin during the process. Let me share with you a case study to make this point.… Continue Reading …

A Rattled Confidence during Disappointments Is a Sign It Is from God

Rattled Confidence During Disappointments Is a Sign It Is From God

Trials and disappointment are two unexpected ways the Lord blesses our lives. It’s a challenging way to think, but you know it’s true to the Bible’s narrative. The tension is that in those times in our lives where circumstances mount to such a degree, we… Continue Reading …

Take the World’s Greatest Personality Test To See What Type You Are

Take the World's Greatest Personality Test to See What Type You Are

One of the many peculiarities of our over-psychologized age is our culture’s affinity for their various attempts to figure out personalities. The peculiarity is not so much with our culture’s fascination with the personality and human condition, as it is how the church has jumped… Continue Reading …

How to Train Your Flea, or How to Control Others

How To Train Your Flea, Or How To Control Others

Have you ever trained a flea? It’s a simple process. You place a flea or a flock of fleas (not sure if flock is the right word) in a Mason jar and tighten the lid. Next, you leave the flea(s) in the jar for three… Continue Reading …

When You Make Your Child Work for Your Affection

When You Make Your Child Work for Your Affection

Children should not work for affection. Christian parents imitate God; one way to do this is by loving them just because they are their children. We know our children are not perfect, and there is a time to deal with their imperfections, but love should… Continue Reading …

When You Are Discouraged You Need Your Soul Restored

When You Are Discouraged You Need Your Soul Restored

Have you ever been discouraged? Silly question, I know. You are human, and you have battled our discouraging foe. Finite people living in an uncontrollable, infinite world creates a formula that leads to despair. Throw sin into the mix, and discouragement is a guarantee. I… Continue Reading …

To Recover from Broken Expectations, You Need to Know This

To Recover from Broken Expectations, You Need to Know This

What expectations have you had that did not come to fruition? How did you respond when you did not get what you had hoped? All of us have had dashed expectations. To expect stuff is human. So is not getting life the way you planned,… Continue Reading …

Finding Your Voice To Be Who God Wants You To Be

Finding Your Voice to Be Who God Wants You to Be

The temptation for all of us is to conform to the status quo. We have a herd mentality that drives us to conformity. Of course, a bully culture will cancel you if you step outside their clearly defined lines. There are not many unique personalities… Continue Reading …