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How to Overcome Our Most Damaging Response to Frustrating Times

How to Overcome Our Most Damaging Response to Frustrating Times

It’s possible to let your thoughts run to places that are not redemptive during frustrating and disappointing times. We are in those times. The two primary strongholds are fear and anger. Fearfulness captures too many of us in dire situations while others respond angrily at… Continue Reading …

Adversity Is the Condition That Teaches You Contentment

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Is it possible to get to the point in your spiritual life where external things do not control you internally? The Bible says it is possible, but only through the portal of adversity. This truth is what Paul was hoping the Philippians would learn. Listen… Continue Reading …

When the Parent’s Anger Complicates the Life of the Child

When the Parent's Anger Complicates the Life of the Child

The angry heart does not have to direct its frustration toward anyone to complicate that relationship. Of course, you can be mad with someone, and it will damage your redemptive goals with them. But whether you have a general condition of anger or you go… Continue Reading …

The Internet Is the New Frontier for Angry People to Hang Out

The Internet Is the New Frontier for Angry People Hang Out

The Internet is an angry place. It’s one of the sadder revelations about the Internet period in church history to see how it has become a context to put our sinful hearts on full display before the world. Revealing my wicked heart is not a… Continue Reading …

Thinking of Yourself as Victim Is One of the Worst Things You Can Do

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Daniel Berger and I talked about the word victim and how many biblical counselors are abusing the term, which has led to insufficient care within the biblical counseling movement ranks. Daniel told me the word victim comes from the Latin root vicarious, which means taking… Continue Reading …

God Is Not on Your Side: You’re on His Side, or You’re Not

God Is Not On Your Side_ You're On His Side, or You're Not

Imperfect people steward neither blessings nor trials well. As Martin Luther said, we are curved inward on ourselves, meaning that self-interest rather than God’s glory or others’ good is what generally rules us, causing us to respond poorly to virtually everything that happens to us.… Continue Reading …

How to Know If Your Victimhood Has Become Your Identity

How to Know If Your Victimhood Has Become Your Identity

Being a victim of anything is one of the most challenging circumstances for a hurting soul to negotiate. The journey out of the effects of victimization is long. Some contours will challenge the victim to the broadest expanse of their soul. Their ultimate goal is… Continue Reading …

When the Abuse You See Clouds Biblical Interpretations

When the Abuse You See Clouds Biblical Interpretations

When abuse forms the lens through how you view what is happening in your life or among friends, it may discolor how you interpret and react to those experiences. I’m not suggesting that bad things are not happening to you or your friends, but I… Continue Reading …

Abuse Is Not the Best Way to Talk about the Problem with Abuse

Abuse Is Not the Best Way to Talk about the Problem With Abuse

Whenever we bring words, language, and constructs from the culture and wedge them into a biblical paradigm, things become awkward, and emotions tend to erupt. This problem is what has happened with the word abuse. We grabbed it from the world, with all its accompanying… Continue Reading …

The Abuse of Abuse Is Complicating Legitimate Abuse

The Abuse of Abuse Is Complicating Legitimate Abuse

The word abuse has become a catchall phrase with too many Christians. It’s a construct that is full of all sorts of things, and it’s now in danger of losing its worth. When you dilute a subject to include virtually anything, the original meaning is… Continue Reading …