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Four Things To Know When Working through Abuse

Four Things to Know When Working Through Abuse

Abuse is a broad category. In today’s culture, it may include micro-aggressions, which can be anything from subtle to intentional slights toward another person. On the other end of the abuse spectrum are some of the most heinous events that can happen to a human being.… Continue Reading …

The Remarkable Way God Uses Your Brokenness To Heal You

Learn the remarkable news of how the Lord uses the bad things that have happen to you to heal you and bring you to Himself. He can bring good out of evil

God creates children in His image. Parents have a responsibility to shape the child for God with the hope and prayer that when they are old enough to understand, they will follow Him. Then things get off track. The parent makes mistakes. The child reacts… Continue Reading …

What Is Gaslighting, Its Effects, and How to React to It?

What Is Gaslighting, Its Effects, and How to React to It_

Gaslighting is the mental manipulation that someone does to another individual. It’s a psychological maneuver of abusive-type people who want to control you by making you believe you’re guilty of something you did not do. If they persist, you may give up and accept what… Continue Reading …

How Do You Respond When Abuse and Submission Collide?

How Do You Respond When Abuse and Submission Collide_

I will never forget the first time that I confronted a verbally abusive husband during a counseling session. As with many authoritarian husbands, this particular man declared his harsh treatment of his wife to be his biblical duty—a perceived badge of honor. As with far… Continue Reading …

The Destructive Force of Empathy, and Why You Need to Know

The Destructive Force of Empathy, and Why You Need to Know

Before you go any further in this article, please answer this question. The reason I want you to do this is that your definitions of empathy and sympathy will describe who you are, how you think, and the kind of care you provide for others.… Continue Reading …

A Practical Guide Through the Complexities of Domestic Abuse

All abusive situations are complicated. There is no easy way to navigate through the many complexities of abusive relationships. But God does not leave us alone or without help. There are practical ways to think about and respond to these relational disappointments. You may want… Continue Reading …

Hiding Behind Grace To Avoid The Hard Things

Sometimes “extending grace” may mean you’re about to get into conflict. Though you should never look for a fight, you should also not be looking for ways to avoid soul care when it is within your competency and influence to help someone who is struggling.… Continue Reading …

An Appeal from a Former Sovereign Grace Ministries Pastor

I wrote this piece in 2012 originally. I’m republishing it today (2019) with a few edits since the sad saga continues to unfold. I was part of Sovereign Grace Ministries from 2003 to 2008, and four of those years, I served as a pastor. It… Continue Reading …

How to Help the Domineering Husband and Doormat Wife

God has called the body of Christ to intervene when oppressive family relationships are in its midst. The church should be the safest place in the world for hurting people. You may want to read: A Short Prayer on Walking in the Spirit A Good… Continue Reading …

Spiritual Abuse – When It Is Time To Leave

Spiritual abuse is a broad category in that it can encompass many different kinds of relationships, contexts, and situations. Wherever there is a two-tiered system of leaders and followers, spiritual abuse can happen. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on iTunes, Google Play, SoundCloud,… Continue Reading …