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The Toxic and Damaging Effects of the Angry Dad

The Toxic and Damaging Effects of the Angry Dad

Few things are more frightening to a child than an angry dad. An angry father in the home is the metaphorical equivalent of rolling a child’s heart through a minefield. The angry dad forces the child to live between two worlds: strive to be perfect… Continue Reading …

Dear Parents, Will You Stop Your Arguing? Please!

Dear Parents, Will You Stop Your Arguing_ Please!

When children are young, they believe their parents are impressive in about every way. As they grow older and create proper categories for living well with others, they begin to see their parents’ good and bad behaviors. Observing flawed lives in the family dynamic does… Continue Reading …

Mean Wives, and Husbands Who Should Love Them

Mean Wives, and Husbands Who Should Love Them

I have been accused (my word, not theirs) of writing too much about how husbands need to change. Of course, my “accusers” are husbands. They may be right. I do think a lot about husbands for two primary reasons. I am a husband, which motivates… Continue Reading …

I Could Not Stay Angry and Progress in My Marriage

I Knew I Could Not Stay Angry In My Marriage

Transformation starts in a person’s soul as he relates to God while refusing to make excuses for why things are the way they are. The motivation for change must be a singular desire to glorify God while giving lesser consideration to the things happening in… Continue Reading …

With Respect and Humility, It Can Be Okay to Disagree

When It’s Okay to Go Against Your Husband’s Wishes

There may be times in life when the best way for you to honor the Lord is to disagree with those who have limited authority over you. Total subservience to anyone without hope for appeal or alternatives is not in line with God’s Word. The… Continue Reading …

My Husband Does Not Love or Protect Me

My Husband Does Not Love or Protect Me

There are times when we can deceive ourselves into believing we are doing good when we’re not. The deceptions of sin are subtle. Having someone speak into the things we cannot see is vital, which is what I did with Biff and Mable. This mindmap… Continue Reading …

How to Separate Well (from Your Spouse)

How to Separate Well (From Your Spouse)

Marital dysfunction and potential separation of a spouse is a horrible experience that happens too often in Christian marriages. Did you know there is a way to separate well and a way to do it badly? Separation and divorce are not what we should do,… Continue Reading …

Five Core Elements of a Healthy Marriage

Five Core Elements Of a Healthy Marriage

What you are about to read are five core elements that are practical and replicate-able in your home. When practically applied, these ideas can have a transformative effect on those you want to influence the most. For some believers, the knowledge about the Bible far… Continue Reading …

You Just Caught Your Child Using Porn; What Are You to Do?

You Just Caught Your Child Using Porn; What Are You to Do (1)

A biblical counselor interviewed Rick Thomas about a situation he is counseling with parents who discovered their child is watching porn. The counselor asked questions that are in italics with Rick’s responses underneath. The fictionalized, flattened version of the story is the dad came to… Continue Reading …

You Must Know This Before You Counsel Anyone

You Must Know This Before You Counsel a Teen

Sometimes stereotypical counseling can get in the way of what you want to do with an individual, especially when the counselee has a preconceived, pessimistic instinct about where you want to go with him. You’ll see this with some teenagers, for example, because they sense… Continue Reading …