A counseling office is a place for trust, truth, and honesty, but sometimes getting to this place is not straightforward. For example, a counselee may withhold the truth about themselves because they are not confident the counselor is trustworthy. They are vetting the counselor. Every… Continue Reading …

A rebellious teenager is a complicated problem with many sides to it. Loving parents want to motivate this kind of child to change, but too often, they are not aware of all that is involved in helping him. Here are ten practical things that any… Continue Reading …

Do you ever feel fear when it comes to the responsibility that comes with counseling people biblically? I teach with much fear and trembling, but not just because I am held accountable. When it comes to counseling people one-on-one, I find it fulfilling yet also… Continue Reading …

Show me a person’s friends and the content that he consumes, and I will tell you what kind of individual he is. The quickest and most straightforward way to know a person is by assessing their relationships and the things that they put into their… Continue Reading …

Nobody loved people more than Jesus. Nobody was less controlled by people than Jesus. He found and lived in the perfect relational sweet spot of, “I love you, but you will not control me.” How about you? Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on… Continue Reading …

Every discipler knows that they cannot change anyone. This worldview becomes acute when you’re trying to help someone transform. Though you cooperate with the Lord in the “change process,” only He can grant repentance. This case study presents this dilemma with an angry, stubborn couple.… Continue Reading …

Building trust in any discipleship context can be a challenge. Some people’s hurt is so deep that they fortify their guardedness. Understanding the interpersonal dynamics between an untrusting counselee and the discipler is critical. Listen to the podcast You may want to read: One Reasons… Continue Reading …

If you are discipling someone, I’d like for you to share this article with them. You will not find better counseling advice than what I’m going to share. I have also included a few assessment questions that will help you to care for them more… Continue Reading …

Which is more important to you? To receive a leader’s attention or receive their care? What if you turned the question around and looked at it from your leader’s perspective? “What is possible: to give each person all your attention or to give them your… Continue Reading …

Everybody you love will not change into people that love God and others more than themselves. How you respond to this fact will determine the kind of rest you experience in your soul and how you relate to the unchanging person. Listen to the podcast… Continue Reading …