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The Problem Letting Religious People Know The Real You

Becoming a Christian does not remove the fear of being rejected by others. Christianity provides you with a new people group and new opportunities to belong, but it does not mean you are to live with your new friends while wearing a mask. I did… Continue Reading …

Secret-Keeping Destroys Lives and Relationships

There is a temptation with all of us to keep certain things hidden from others. Our high sense of shame and self-awareness tempts us from the purpose of the gospel, which is transformation in a community of grace. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are… Continue Reading …

Should I Keep My Friend’s Sin Secret?

Your friend comes to you with a secret sin. How would you respond to him? You are his accountability partner, and he asks you to keep his sin confidential. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on iTunes, Google Play, SoundCloud, TuneIn, or Stitcher. If… Continue Reading …

Is It Necessary to Use Biblical Categories to Problem-Solve?

How you listen and respond to someone will determine the kind of help you provide. Everybody does not work through their problems biblically, which is why you must know how to come alongside the hurting so you can bring the best care to them. Listen… Continue Reading …

Counseling Can Be a Lying Profession

I had a conversation with two counselees, and the issue of lying came up. I mentioned to them that telling falsehoods is a regular part of my profession. It was a sad, but true statement. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on iTunes, Google… Continue Reading …

Why I Can’t Tell My Spouse Everything I’m Thinking

Being married and being a Christian does not automatically mean you will connect and relate to your spouse at the most secret part of your soul, which is your intimate knowledge of and experience with God. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on iTunes,… Continue Reading …

Two Essentials If You Want To Change

Transformation does not happen automatically or miraculously. If you want to change, you will have to challenge yourself at the deepest and most difficult level of your soul, and the two most fearsome hurdles you’ll have to cross are honesty and transparency. Listen to the… Continue Reading …

How Can I Be More Honest with My Spouse?

How honest can you be with your spouse? Is your marriage vulnerable and safe enough to communicate honestly? Are you free from critique and condemnation, which releases you to talk transparently? Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on iTunes, Google Play, SoundCloud, TuneIn, or… Continue Reading …

Case Study: If I Tell the Truth, My Christian College Will Expel Me

Biff is in his junior year at a local Christian college. And he struggles with pornography and masturbation. When he was 12-years old, his best friend introduced him to those sins. Not understanding the addictiveness of porn and having no serious interest in girls, he… Continue Reading …

Why It Is Easier to Lie Than Tell the Truth

Most Christians do not tell big bold lies. We know better. It is morally wrong not to tell the truth. To willfully alter reality to untruth should not be part of any Christian’s game plan. Listen to the podcast Our podcasts are on iTunes, Google… Continue Reading …