Mable’s husband has been living in adultery for over five years. Recently she found a receipt in his wallet from a local bar. After some questions, an argument, and a visit to the bar, Mable figured out about the affair.
Mable is angry, hurt, and unforgiving. She can’t bring up the topic without crying. She also admits she has a “nagging” problem and has rarely encouraged or shown respect to her husband during the fifteen years of their marriage.
You are now in a dilemma. Though Mable is the victim of a heinous sin, she is not innocent entirely of the fifteen-years of marriage problems. She is not guilty of Biff’s choices, but his adultery did not happen in a vacuum.
It is evident that Biff has sinned big time. Not only has he committed adultery, but he was a terrible husband before the adultery. He is willing to talk about these things, repent and turn his life around. But Mable has contributed in a significant way to the demise of the marriage too.
Case Study Questions
- At what point in the counseling do you bring up her sinfulness in the marriage?
- How do you walk her through being sinned against versus her guilt that contributed to the adultery?
- How does the gospel speak specifically and practically to her hurt and her guilt?
- What do you think is at the core of her self-righteous attitude that motivated her to be a discouragement to her husband?