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I have often described a divorced guy like a man wearing a tux with brown shoes. Another analogy that I have used is that he is like a car with four good tires, with one donut tire in the trunk. He’s the donut.
I once had a purpose when I read God’s Word that motivated me to minister to others, but now I am divorced. And my usefulness feels more like relegation to a back-up position in a dark trunk. – Divorced Guy
The divorced guy had a life partner once upon a time. He used to enjoy relational contexts that were mostly married couples. After marriage, his network changed from singles to couples. He became a married guy in a married world. Today, he’s single again.
He lives in that surreal place between married and single, and he doesn’t fit well in either context. When he enters a room, he scans the crowd only to see husband/wife, husband/wife, husband/wife, husband/wife, and himself.
He’s the odd man out—something akin to a spare tire in the trunk. Besides having worked through the disappointment of a marriage gone wrong, he now has to figure out where he fits into his scary new world.
Few opportunities picture the gospel better than reaching out to a divorced person, whether it’s a male or female. The Savior came for the outcast, downtrodden, defeated, and broken. The pain of divorce is hard to explain to those who have not walked this lonely road. Here are a few thoughts that will serve you as you seek to help our divorced brothers and sisters who are trying to start over again.
Divorce is not God’s best; he knows this, so don’t tell him. He is well aware that he has made mistakes. Ironically, blunders fit perfectly into the schema of the gospel. The gospel is not for the mistake-less. God came to rescue a mistake-ridden people.
What a privilege you and I have to model the gospel to a particular kind of hurting people in our churches, as well as our communities. Have you loved on a divorced person today practically?