As the weather becomes warmer, the clothes start coming off our bodies. While summer is appreciated and welcomed, especially in areas which has winter climates, it also brings real and difficult sexual temptation for many people.
- Read part two of this series, Modesty Wars – the conservatives vs. those who are not
I’ll not make a case here for porn. I’ve done this in other places. I’ll simply say porn is the number one behavioral counseling issue with men, regardless if they come to counseling admitting a porn problem.
Porn is the most lucrative and largest industry on the Internet and it is the most-oft-used marketing approach on television. Our culture, Christian and non-Christian alike, is head-over-heels in love with the human body.
Sex sells. To think otherwise is to be naive or duplicitous. Sex has gripped the hearts of our teens and has infected the minds of our husbands. There is not a week which goes by where I’m not dealing with a pornography issue with someone in my counseling.
For further reading
- When looking for porn, begin in the heart
- Men are tempted to lust – Women are tempted to be lusted after
- Backward Porn Addiction: when women draw attention to themselves
The Blame Game
As you read this article I appeal to you not to fall into the defensive trap of blaming the other gender for their weaknesses. Can we embrace Paul’s attitude of being the foremost sinner and choose not to throw rocks at the opposite sex (1 Timothy 1:15)?
Your humility will affect how you respond to this article. Maybe the words of Jesus would be helpful as we launch into this highly emotional subject of modesty. He taught us how to judge ourselves first.
Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?
Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye?
You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye. – Matthew 7:3-5 (ESV)
It is true how some men will lust at any female, at any time, just because she is breathing and walking upright. As