Too much skin, girl. Too much skin. A talk on modesty

As the weather becomes warmer, the clothes start coming off our bodies. While summer is appreciated and welcomed, especially in areas which has winter climates, it also brings real and difficult sexual temptation for many people.

I’ll not make a case here for porn. I’ve done this in other places. I’ll simply say porn is the number one behavioral counseling issue with men, regardless if they come to counseling admitting a porn problem.

Porn is the most lucrative and largest industry on the Internet and it is the most-oft-used marketing approach on television. Our culture, Christian and non-Christian alike, is head-over-heels in love with the human body.

Sex sells. To think otherwise is to be naive or duplicitous. Sex has gripped the hearts of our teens and has infected the minds of our husbands. There is not a week which goes by where I’m not dealing with a pornography issue with someone in my counseling.

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The Blame Game

As you read this article I appeal to you not to fall into the defensive trap of blaming the other gender for their weaknesses. Can we embrace Paul’s attitude of being the foremost sinner and choose not to throw rocks at the opposite sex (1 Timothy 1:15)?

Your humility will affect how you respond to this article. Maybe the words of Jesus would be helpful as we launch into this highly emotional subject of modesty. He taught us how to judge ourselves first.

Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?

Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye?

You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye. – Matthew 7:3-5 (ESV)

It is true how some men will lust at any female, at any time, just because she is breathing and walking upright. As

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About Rick Thomas

Rick has been training in the Upstate of South Carolina since 1997. After several years as a counselor and pastor he founded and launched his own training organization in order to encourage and equip people for more effective living. In the early ’90’s he earned a BA in Theology. Later he earned a BS in Education. In 1993 he was ordained into Christian ministry and in 2000 he graduated with a MA in Counseling. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow with ACBC. Today his organization reaches people in every country through consulting, training, blogging, and coaching.
  • Adam

    Would you say it is a sin for a girl to wear a bikini at the pool or the beach? I know woman will not equate a bikini with panties and a bra but, it seems women have some sort of shame of not being infront of the opposite sex in their underwear. So, if they feel shame being in panties and a bra (with other men around) how can they not feel shame in a bikini? Is shame the same thing as sin? It is almost as if when water is involved, a girls morals go straight down hill.

  • http://www.RickThomas.Net/ Rick Thomas

    That’s a touchy subject. ;-) The logic makes sense to me.

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