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The idol of comfort

Posted on March 28, 2012 in Articles under by

Val lives in her house.

No, let me restate that: Val never leaves her house.

She spends her days mostly on her couch watching whatever the TV is pumping out.

You can walk into her home on any given day and wonder if she is watching TV or if the TV is watching her–she sleeps a lot.

When her close friend confronted her about her lifestyle, she said that she loved comfort.

She is a self-proclaimed comfort idolator.

Her friend did not totally buy into her assessment, but what can you do?

Though Val was willing to talk about it, she was not willing to change.[1]

My friend called me, asking for advice on how to care for Val. Here is what we talked about:

I asked my friend–let’s call her Paula–if Val was overweight. She said she was grossly overweight, that she not only spends time on the couch, but she is not alone on her couch: potato chips and sodas are her beckoning buddies.

The reason I asked her the weight question was because it is a normal assumption when thinking about sin patterns. A particular sin, whatever it may be, never isolates to one kind of manifestation.

If Val is being lazy in one area of her life, then you can bet that she is being lazy in several other areas of her life too. Cancer goes for the whole body if it is allowed to–and sin will do the same.

I suspected that if you evaluated Val’s whole life you would find many areas that resemble laziness–not just slouching around or eating a lot. For example, it would not surprise me if she was a critical gossip–a person who has a negative attitude toward others.

Saying bad things about people is an act of laziness. It takes diligence, discretion, self-control, and willpower to be kind and guarded about how you communicate–that means work, effort, and energy. Read that last sentence again with Val in mind. These are not the kinds of labels that describe her.

She does not exhibit diligence, discretion, self-control or willpower in regards to her eating habits–she is overweight, or her time management–she watches TV all the time, or her sleep patterns–she sleeps up to 12 hours a day…ad nauseam.

In fact, I would be shocked if there weren’t other areas of her life that were

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  1. [1] Val loves talking about her problems. She is a problem-centered person. Like Linus with his security blanket, Val feels safe in her comfort prison.
  • Michael Hawkins

    Good article Rick. I just talked with someone this morning about getting involved and helping a friend to break-free from a life of partying, lying and drunkenness. A coincidence…I don’t think so…God’s kindeness

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