Does your husband know you are for him?
Husbands are fragile people. We have sensitive egos. We may come across as strong and indifferent, but that’s just presentation. We’re actually quite needy. I wonder if wives know this.
Do you know this? I wonder if wives are aware how much their husbands need them. Read on.
I’m going to break the code of men and reveal the secret handshake. God did say He was going to make a woman for the man because it was not good for the man to be alone (Genesis 2:18). Baby, I need your lovin.
There is a definite implication about the neediness of the man in the statement “it’s not good for him to be alone.” Many husbands are too proud or too stubborn to admit their need. Such husbands have bought into the cultural lie of self-reliance and machismo.
Regardless, the loneliness of being alone is painful. Companionship is a big reason men get married. Men are needy. Your husband is not as independent and self-reliant as he may want you or others to think. If he can get over himself and this macho image thing he is wrapped up in, he will tell you how much he needs you–how much he desires your affection.
Husbands can be burly, gruff, and a bit unkempt, but that is a facade. Within that rough canvas exterior is a little boy who wants attention and assurances of affection. He wants to be cared for–he wants to know you are for him.
- Are you?
- Are you for your husband?
- Do you respect him?
- Do you like him?
- Does he know you like him?
- Does he feel your affection and appreciation on a regular basis?
God is for us
Are you for your husband? This is one of the many ways you can show your love for your husband. It is one of the many ways you can model the Gospel in your marriage. As an imitator of God, you should be for your husband (Ephesians 5:1).
What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? – Romans 8:31 (ESV)
God is for you. Think just a moment about how God is for you and how that makes you feel. This is what I am talking about. What you should be to your husband is similar to what your heavenly Father is to you–He is for you.
Before Paul gives us that great sentence in Romans