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30Aug
NL The number one reason you need someone

The number one reason you need someone

Let’s pretend there were only two chapters in the Bible—the first two. Let's pretend your name is Adam, and all you know is what happened in Genesis one and two. There is no fall, no sin, no needs, no wants, no Gospel, and no need for an incarnate Christ. It is a beautiful world with you and Creator God (Genesis 2:7). It is hard for us to think what it would have been like for Adam because we live in a post-Genesis three world (Genesis 3:6). Everything we think about the first two chapters of Genesis is filtered through a Read
28Aug
NL The problem when black churches treat the pastor’s wife as “co-pastor”

The problem when black churches treat the pastor’s wife as “co-pastor”

From the Darrell Harrison series: 10 things the black church should stop doing[ref]Please note that the order in which these commentaries are presented do not necessarily reflect a certain priority or significance of the topics that will be addressed.[/ref] [box type="info" ]This is the second in a series of commentaries I’ll be writing on traditions and customs that, in my humble opinion, are doing damage to the missional purpose of what is commonly referred to as the “Black Church”. The objective of this series is not to denigrate any particular denomination, church, or individual, but to humbly address what I personally Read
27Aug
NL A simple guide on how to make a decision--about anything

A simple guide on how to make a decision. About anything

The most important question asked when making a decision is, “Are you ‘in faith’ to [insert the thing you're thinking about doing]?” I said this to a friend recently and he asked, “What do you mean when you say, in faith?” But whoever has doubts is condemned if he eats, because the eating is not from faith. For whatever does not proceed from faith is sin. - Romans 14:23 (ESV) The term in faith comes from Paul’s language in Romans 14:23. He was saying that all of our decisions must go forth from a heart of faith. Maybe a few synonyms will help to bring Read
23Aug
NL The best reason to marry. The best reason to reconcile.

The best reason to marry. The best reason to reconcile.

Eric and Vickie are in love. When came to their first pre-marital counseling session, I asked them why they wanted to get married. Vickie explained how Eric finished her thoughts. I privately wondered how she would feel five years into the marriage after he stopped talking. Then she said he made her feel special. I wondered how she would feel after he became preoccupied with other things like his job. She added that he was handsome and how she could not believe someone as attractive as Eric wanted to marry her. I wondered how she would feel as old age began to Read
22Aug
NL A cool idea to do on your birthday

A cool idea to do on your birthday

Lucia's birthday is on the 23rd of this month. It is one of the five times a year that we have what we call our Birthday Adventure Week--a week-long celebration of a family member's life. This article is a practical explanation of how we do it. I've added a few fun pictures and a lot of practical advice for you--a different kind of article from what I normally produce. Synonyms: Birthday adventure week Birthday freebie adventure Enjoy! [Tweet "Why celebrate your birthday on one day when you can celebrate all week?"] Why a Birthday Adventure? Birthday parties are usually all about the kids, but with a birthday freebie adventure week, your whole Read
20Aug
NL What every guy needs to know about every girl

What every guy needs to know about every girl…regardless of her age

Did you know that girls have a call to submission that is different from a man's call to submit? (Maybe I should ask, do you know that a guy is called to submit?) What are some of the things that you, as a husband, could do to make it easier for your wife to submit? What are some things that you could provide that would motivate your daughter or wife to submit with joy? The answer to those questions are found in a proper understanding of how women are different from men. Those differences, and the male's role in understanding Read
18Aug
NL Open letter to any girl who wants to be married

Open letter to any girl who wants to be married

[box type="shadow" ]One of the most common themes that I have heard during marriage counseling has been something along the lines of, "He (or she) is not the person that I married." While it is true that people change as a normal course of aging, there is also another angle to this problem. It is this: A lack of careful assessment and outside input for the dating couple. If love causes blindness, then there is a good chance the couple will be set up for a lifetime of disappointment.[/box] I appeal to you to ask the Spirit of God to speak Read
16Aug
NL Sex before marriage is the beginning of a trail of tears

Sex before marriage is the beginning of a trail of tears

[box type="shadow" ]In the last piece I talked about the differences between boys and girls and how they can be tempted sexually. In this piece I discuss the long-term consequences of premarital sex by looking at a couple who had premarital sex and the long-term effects of their cover up.[/box] Sue met Bill in high school. Though it was not love at first sight for her, it was pretty close. For Bill it was a different story. He was smitten. They began to hang out during their senior year. They wrote letters to each other while in college because they were three states apart. Read
15Aug
NL 10 things the black church should stop doing

10 things the black church should stop doing

From the Darrell Harrison series: 10 things the black church should stop doing[ref]Please note that the order in which these commentaries are presented do not necessarily reflect a certain priority or significance of the topics that will be addressed.[/ref] [box type="info" ]This is the first in a series of commentaries I’ll be writing on traditions and customs that, in my humble opinion, are doing damage to the missional purpose of what is commonly referred to as the “Black Church”. The objective of this series is not to denigrate any particular denomination, church, or individual, but to humbly address what I personally Read
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