NL There are no his or her problems in marriage; there are one flesh problems

There are no his or her problems in marriage; there are one flesh problems

Here is a silly story. It’s not true. It’s just a silly story. The other day I was trimming back some briars behind our fence in the backyard. I caught my arm on some of the briars. One of the thorns broke the skin and made a slight laceration on my arm. My arm was hurting. It began to bleed. The pain would not go away so I yelled at my arm. Anger was my way of “fixing” the problem. I became critical of my arm because it was messing up my day. If only my arm would cooperate and Read
NL Five core elements for every healthy marriage

Five core elements of every healthy marriage

One of the most common critiques that I hear about Christianity from Christians is how the Bible is not made practical, or practicalized, as I like to say. There is no question that this is a problem within our tribe. Our knowledge about the Bible far exceeds are ability to make it practical in the daily affairs of our lives, especially in our families. This article is practical. What you are about to discover are five core elements that are replicate-able in your home. These ideas are implementable in your family. They are pieces, that when practically applied, can have Read
NL Essential qualities of an effective husband

Essential qualities of an effective husband

Every gardener has a garden. It’s common sense. If you plan to take up gardening, then you must have a garden. My grandfather was an expert gardener. Though I did not appreciate his garden at the time; I reflect back on it now, and I’m amazed at how he took care of his garden and the harvest that it produced. Grandpa was a careful, meticulous, and skilled gardener. I’m not sure if a weed ever stayed in his garden more than a day. From sunup to sundown he tended his garden. Though he did many other things with his Read
NL An essential quality of an effective wife

An essential quality of an effective wife

[box type="shadow" ]I realize the question I'm about to ask you has an against the grain feel to it, but before you move on to something else please read the next three paragraphs.[/box] Who is the biggest sinner in your home? Have you ever thought about that question? How would you answer it? The way you answer that question will affect how you engage relational issues that come between you and literally every other person in your life. Key Idea - The purpose of this piece is twofold: (1) To remind all of us how no sin is greater than the sin that Read
NL Planned Parenthood harvesting and selling human lives

Is Planned Parenthood harvesting and selling human lives?

The Center for Medical Progress recently released an undercover video of Dr. Deborah Nucatola, Planned Parenthood’s Senior Director for Medical Services, explaining Planned Parenthood’s participation in harvesting and selling intact body parts of aborted babies for medical research. If you haven’t seen the video, you can watch the 9 minute edited version here and the 2 hour unedited version here. A second undercover video by the same group has also been recently released and can be viewed Read
NL One reason children rebel against their parents

One reason children rebel against their parents

Children are one of God's many gifts to parents. As parents, we have the responsibility and the privilege to guide them into a practical experience of knowing and loving God (Deuteronomy 6:4-9) . Though our children are born with a limited God-awareness (Romans 1:20), we can still cooperate with the LORD (Ephesians 5:1) in the process of connecting their innate awareness of Him (Romans 2:14-15) in real, practical, and mature ways that ultimately lead to their salvation (John 3:7). I have created a graphic that helps to communicate that concept. (The six points below will help you to walk through the Read
NL My husband is immature. How can I help him

My husband is immature. How can I help him?

Member Mailbag: Would you be willing to write something about living with an immature husband and how to biblically respond to him? Yes, I would be glad to do that for you. What you're describing is a soul-saddening situation with no timetable for change. It's one of the toughest places a wife could be in her marriage. Let me give you a fictional case study to get things started. Bill is immature and insecure. If Mary says anything that relates to him, their marriage, or his need to change, Bill takes it personally and usually sulks for a few days. Mary Read
NL Why “hate the sin, love the sinner” can be dangerous theology

Why “hate the sin, love the sinner” can be dangerous theology

Member Mailbag - I hear this term a lot: “hate the sin, but love the sinner” or “hate the crime, but not the criminal.” It sounds like an excuse to hang out with people, while ignoring their sin. I find it hard to separate the sin from the sinner. I’m not saying I hate people. The analogy I’ve come up with is if someone broke into a home and killed a wife or child. Or maybe a drunk driver slammed into a family and killed a spouse. I would blame the person and hold him responsible. I would not blame Read

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