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24Oct
Facebook_ A new kind of intimacy NS

Facebook: A new kind of intimacy

Facebook_ A new kind of intimacy NS

  • Jeremy posted the wrong age on his Facebook page.
  • Phillip has no picture of his wife in any of his photos.
  • Camille has replaced Oprah watching with Facebook.
  • Jan has reconnected with two of her old college boyfriends and has not told her husband.
  • Wallace has no idea how much time his wife spends on Facebook.
  • George does not state that he is married on his page.

These six scenarios are more common than you might think. I have personally met people who use Facebook this way, which speaks to how any good thing can easily be turned into a bad thing.

If Facebook were a country, it would be one of the largest and fastest growing countries in the world. For most of us it is a good and useful tool, though it is not surprising how it could be a source of temptation for the dissatisfied soul.

There is no place where Facebook’s sinful side is more prominent than in marriages that have not lived up to one or both of the spouse’s expectations.

Will you like me?

Facebook has become the new false intimacy from some people. It is relatively safe. It provides a perception of genuine relationships. It seems better than video gaming, though it provides a unique kind of temptation through cyber relationships.

“John” told me the reason he uses a different name and age on his Facebook profile is because he wants people to like him and feels his best shot at being liked is to change his identity.

His Facebook name is “Al” and instead of using his real age, 43, he poses as a 23-year old single college student. He told me he did not think he was a bad person, as his wife tells him, because people like him on Facebook.

He says his real life relationships are dysfunctional, while his Facebook relationships are normal. John explained this by saying his real life relationships do not understand him and his Facebook friends do. His conclusion is that his real world friends are at fault.

Sin with a ubiquitous twist

I am sure you are not surprised by the sinful temptations of social media. Sin is our ever-present adversary and because sin is part of our lives, bad things do happen, even in social media.

Facebook provides us...

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23Oct
Are Christians supposed to have fun? NS

Are Christians supposed to have fun?

Listen to Rick read this post:

A Member asked on the Forum about having fun. She wondered if she was supposed to have fun, while expressing how there seems to be an element of mystery about what fun should look like for a Christian. Let me ask you,

  • Are Christians supposed to have fun?
  • If so, what constitutes fun for the Christian?
  • Do you have a fun theology?
  • Let’s get personal: Do you have fun? Are you a fun...

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  • 23Oct
    Facebook_ A new kind of intimacy NS

    Facebook: un nuevo tipo de intimidad

    Jeremy posteó una edad falsa en su página de Facebook. Philip no tenía una imagen de su esposa en ninguna de sus fotos. Camille reemplazó a Oprah con Facebook. Jan se ha reconectado con dos de sus viejos novios de la Universidad y no le ha dicho a su esposo. Wallace no tiene idea de cuánto tiempo su esposa pasa en Facebook. George no dice que está casado en su página.

    Estas historias son verdaderas, aunque los nombres han sido cambiados.

    Si Facebook fuera un país, sería el tercer país más grande del mundo. Para la mayoría de nosotros es una...

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    22Oct
    The best thing some parents can do is stop parenting NS

    The best thing some parents can do is stop parenting

    Listen to Rick read this post:

    You cannot create unity from disunity. Kind begets kind, as the old King James Bible tells us. What goes in will come out. Therefore, if disunity is what is in your marriage, then disunity is what will come out of your marriage.

    What we are is what we are going to export. If your marriage is mostly characterized by disunity, then the likelihood of your children being relationally dysfunctional is strong.

    This is why my response to some parents, who are worried about how their children are doing, is an...

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    22Oct
    Ten steps to find, develop, and enjoy great friends NS

    Ten steps to find, develop, and enjoy great friends

    Listen to Rick read this post:

    The best friends you could ever have are those who are truly heavenly minded. They know this world is not their home and they are not driving their stakes down, as though this is all that matters.

    They are not disconnected from the realities of this life because they are always seeking who they can connect with in order to show them a better way to enjoy life, as they await the life to come.

    They live in two worlds, but the accent mark is always on the world to come. To have a friend like this is to be rich....

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    21Oct
    Does your church have a Gospel edge? NS

    Does your church have a Gospel edge?

    Listen to Rick read this post:

    I am going to write from the general premise that most Christians are not cared for the way they need to be cared for–as it pertains to their sanctification. This has been my experience in caring for people through counseling.

    In almost all cases when a person comes to me for care, part of the problem is how he has not been receiving proper care. Isolation is one of the primary strategies of the enemy and one of the biggest challenges for folks in trouble.

    If a...

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    21Oct
    Weekend Shorts - Is God harassing you? NS

    Lucy meets Aslan

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    “…but Lucy never thought…stopped to think whether he was a friendly lion or not. She rushed to him. She felt her heart would burst if she lost a moment. And the next thing she knew was that she was kissing him and putting her arms as far round his neck as she could and burying her face in the beautiful rich silkiness of his mane.

    “Aslan, Aslan, Dear Aslan,” sobbed Lucy. “At last.”

    The great beast rolled over on his side so that Lucy fell, half sitting and half lying between his front paws. ...

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    20Oct
    Four essentials that authenticate your Christianity NS

    Four essentials that authenticate your Christianity

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    How do you know you are a Christian?

    I mean, apart from when Christ came to you, what are the evidences that you have been born from above (John 3:7)? While praying a prayer is essential to becoming a Christian (Romans 10:9, 13), the greater authentication is by the evidences of a transformed life.

    So also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead. – James 2:17 (ESV)

    If Christ did take up habitation inside of you, then there should be evidence of Him being...

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    19Oct
    A biblical response to Halloween NS

    A biblical response to Halloween

    Listen to Rick read this post: Halloween, from a degree of difficulty perspective, is the most challenging of all our holidays. A few days out of each October we are asked to give mental energy to this tradition.

    The good news is how this makes Halloween no different from any other thing in our lives. It is just another discipleship opportunity–a privilege the LORD gives us to bring a right response to our annual interruption.

  • The Spirit of God gives us clarity to all things pertaining to life and godliness (2 Peter 1:3).
  • His authoritative and sufficient...

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  • 18Oct
    What to do when counseling is not going anywhere NS

    What to do when counseling is not going anywhere

    Listen to Rick read this post:

    Member Question: Can you help me with something? As a counselor, I find it difficult to terminate a counseling session because of (1) my harshness toward others in the past, (2) my hope something will eventually get through (even though I do not see much change or even see evidence of a willingness to change), and (3) the fact that at the very least the presence of this kind of counselee reminds me to pray for them.

    At the same...

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