NL Why you need to know that you can't fix people

Why you need to know that you can’t fix people

So neither he who plants nor he who waters is anything, but only God who gives the growth. – 1 Corinthians 3:7 (ESV)

I have worked in ministry as a hospital chaplain, and one of the big lessons that chaplains learn early in their training is the rigor of accepting the inherent limits in pastoral care of patients, families, and staff.

These limits come in various sizes and flavors:

  • Some patients will not improve dramatically in health.
  • Some will die soon or after a few recurrent...

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    NL There are no his or her problems in marriage; there are one flesh problems

    There are no his or her problems in marriage; there are one flesh problems

    Here is a silly story. It’s not true. It’s just a silly story.

    The other day I was trimming back some briars behind our fence in the backyard. I caught my arm on some of the briars.

    One of the thorns broke the skin and made a slight laceration on my arm. My arm was hurting. It began to bleed. The pain would not go away so I yelled at my arm.

    Anger was my way of “fixing” the problem. I became critical of my arm because it was messing up my day. If only my arm would cooperate and Read

    NL Five core elements for every healthy marriage

    Five core elements of every healthy marriage

    One of the most common critiques that I hear about Christianity from Christians is how the Bible is not made practical, or practicalized, as I like to say. There is no question that this is a problem within our tribe.

    Our knowledge about the Bible far exceeds are ability to make it practical in the daily affairs of our lives, especially in our families.

    This article is practical.

    What you are about to discover are five core elements that are replicate-able in your home. These ideas are implementable in your family. They are pieces, that when...

    NL Essential qualities of an effective husband

    Essential qualities of an effective husband

    Every gardener has a garden. It’s common sense. If you plan to take up gardening, then you must have a garden.

    My grandfather was an expert gardener.

    Though I did not appreciate his garden at the time; I reflect back on it now, and I’m amazed at how he took care of his garden and the harvest that it produced.

    Grandpa was a careful, meticulous, and skilled gardener. I’m not sure if a weed ever stayed in his garden more than a day. From sunup to sundown he tended his garden. Though he did many other things with his Read

    NL An essential quality of an effective wife

    An essential quality of an effective wife

    This article does not apply to every marriage that is in trouble, specifically a marriage where the husband is abusive. The assumption of this article is that both marriage partners are mature enough and humble enough to communicate on the level in which this article requires. Unfortunately, that is not always the case with marriages that are in trouble.

    I realize the question I’m about to ask you has an against the grain feel to it, but before you move on to something else please read the next three paragraphs.

    Who is the biggest sinner in your...

    NL Planned Parenthood harvesting and selling human lives

    Is Planned Parenthood harvesting and selling human lives?

    The Center for Medical Progress recently released an undercover video of Dr. Deborah Nucatola, Planned Parenthood’s Senior Director for Medical Services, explaining Planned Parenthood’s participation in harvesting and selling intact body parts of aborted babies for medical research.

    If you haven’t seen the video, you can watch the 9 minute edited version here and...

    NL One reason children rebel against their parents

    One reason children rebel against their parents

    Children are one of God’s many gifts to parents. As parents, we have the responsibility and the privilege to guide them into a practical experience of knowing and loving God (Deuteronomy 6:4-9) .

    Though our children are born with a limited God-awareness (Romans 1:20), we can still cooperate with the LORD (Ephesians 5:1) in the process of connecting their innate awareness of Him (Romans 2:14-15) in real, practical, and mature ways that ultimately lead to their salvation (John 3:7).

    I have created a graphic that helps to communicate that...

    NL My husband is immature. How can I help him

    My husband is immature. How can I help him?

    Member Mailbag: Would you be willing to write something about living with an immature husband and how to biblically respond to him?

    Yes, I would be glad to do that for you. What you’re describing is a soul-saddening situation with no timetable for change. It’s one of the toughest places a wife could be in her marriage.

    Let me give you a fictional case study to get things started.

    Bill is immature and insecure. If Mary says anything that...


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