The loneliness of being alone is a sting that penetrates to the depths of a person’s soul. This kind of loneliness is different from being by yourself. It cannot be solved by simply hanging out with people.
Being lonely is an isolating pain. It is more internal than external. Sometimes people talk about physical coldness that penetrates the body to where you are bone cold.
This kind of physical chilling is similar to the spiritual feeling of loneliness in that it is experienced on the inside. It reminds me of the curse of darkness Moses put on the Egyptians.
Then the LORD said to Moses, “Stretch out your hand toward heaven, that there may be darkness over the land of Egypt, a darkness to be felt. – Exodus 10:21 (ESV)
Even being in the middle of one hundred people does not bring relational warmth to the lonely soul because loneliness at its root is a spiritual matter. Though there is a physical component to community, there is a deeper truth with the problem of being alone.
On the physical front you associate and enjoy being around people. On the spiritual front it is essential to connect with other spiritual beings at a level that pushes beyond mere superficialities.
Sometimes you will hear people talk about their frustration with others who do not go deep in their relationships. Their complaint focuses on a desire to intersect with another person at the level of the heart. This is a fantastic desire.
We were created for external and internal community. Because we were made in the image of God, there is a longing within us to be like the LORD. God is the original community. Father, Son, and Spirit enjoy an uninterrupted inter-personal relationship within the Trinity.
It made sense after the LORD created Adam to want to bless His creation by giving him a complementary helper (Genesis 2:18). We do not know all the detailed reasons the LORD did this for Adam, but we do know it was not best for him to be without human companionship, whether in marriage or within the human community.
God is with us
Our desire for community is partial affirmation we are made in the image of...Read