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28Nov
The perfect remedy for those people who annoy you NS

The perfect remedy for those people who annoy you

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Do you love Jesus with all of your heart, soul, mind, and strength, but do not particularly like or care for all of His children? Are there some people in your life hard to like? Do you love the Head of the church, but not all of His body parts?

If anyone says, I love God, and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen. – 1 John 4:20 (ESV)

Perhaps you live in a professing Christian family where...

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27Nov
Why do I do what I do? Can you help me? NS

Why do I do what I do? Can you help me?

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Have you ever wondered why you do the things you do? Have you ever wanted to change the way you are? I think most of us are in this camp. We know things about ourselves that we do not like and would like to change. This is normal.

None of us are perfect and most of us have a better version of ourselves that we would like to become. This is why one of the most common counseling questions is, “How can I change?”

Sometimes the counselor will provide simplistic answers like, trust God, let go and let God, or you need to...

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26Nov
The only psychology book that will change you NS

The only psychology book that will change you

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The essentialness of having the LORD as your presupposition and Christianity as your world view when it comes to working through situational difficulties is non-negotiable.

Your presupposition is the thought you have before you have a thought. It is your starting point. It is your pre-thought. This means before a situation comes into your life, your God-centered presupposition is there, ready, and prepared to interpret that circumstance.

You already know how you are going to filter your life circumstance because...

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26Nov
All you need to know for camping out on Black Friday NS

All you need to know for camping out on Black Friday

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Each year Black Friday and the Christmas season begins in the same place: in my heart. It is like a WWE six-man tag team event in my soul. In one corner I have greed, lust, and materialism; in the other corner I have frugality, stewardship, and wisdom.

The key for me is to make sure my motives for shopping are brought under the careful scrutiny of the Gospel. For those of you in other countries, who do...

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25Nov
The first step in problem solving NS

The first step in problem solving

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One of the most common counseling questions I hear centers around human behavior. Why do I do the things I do? Why am I the way I am? I do not understand my spouse–why does he act this way? I am helping someone, but I do not understand why they will not change.

Human motivation for why we do what we do and the shaping influences that have molded us to behave in certain ways cannot be answered simply or clearly. There are too many possibilities, reasons, and complicating factors that come into play when trying to explain human...

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25Nov
Letter to my friend_ the problem with sin-centered counseling NS

Letter to my friend: the problem with sin-centered counseling

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I am sorry your counseling session did not go the way you expected. I know you are hurting. Please understand that I will not be able to speak specifically to what you experienced during your counseling since I was not there. My hope is to be careful here because I do not want to speak unkindly of your counselor or to characterize them uncharitably.

Not being there is a bid deal, as you know, but based on what you are saying and without talking to them, sin-centered counseling seems to be a standard way ...

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24Nov
A better way to do counseling NS

A better way to do counseling

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Continued from The problem with expecting someone to change

Let’s pretend the prodigal son is sitting in your counseling office. Because you have read the story (Luke 15:11-17) you know the LORD is not going to grant the gift of repentance until verse seventeen.

The prodigal has come to you asking about leaving home so he can live independent from his family. This conversation happens in verse twelve of...

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23Nov
The problem with expecting someone to change - 1.0 NS

The problem with expecting someone to change

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A trained biblical counselor is not considered politically correct when he admits biblical counseling has a built-in liability that sets itself up, in some cases, for failure.

To be more specific, I am referring to the professional model of biblical counseling where a counselor meets someone periodically in an official counseling context to work through a situational difficulty.

To further clarify, I am not referring to biblical counseling that is contextualized in a local church where the whole church is engaged...

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22Nov
How to engage friends, family, and turkeys during Thanksgiving NS

How to engage friends, family, and turkeys during Thanksgiving

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There are two kinds of people in the world: Christians and non-Christians. Within these two people groups are those you prefer to hang with and those you had rather not spend your time. Being a Christian does not automatically put you in the preferred people group or make you an acceptable friend.

When it comes to picking your team of close friends it is possible for some family members, even if they profess Christ, not to be on your team. This can be a...

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21Nov
Letter to my students_ about your future NS

Letter to my students: about your future

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Dear Student,

Thank you for your question about your future after you graduate. That day is almost here. You have worked hard and your growth throughout the process has been personally encouraging to me. It has been what we hoped it would be–transformational. I am also grateful for your desire to continue your relationship with our organization.

That is kind of you.

As for our needs? We have many. Mark Grant was our first graduate. He has taken on the dual roles of Read

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